Practice a neutral expression: Interested but not excited. A “poker face” is a good skill to know and will come in handy a lot!


13, 16, 18, 21



Compassion: Acting with love when faced with another’s suffering.


16



Marry your hero.


21



Adopting a “do it right now” mentality has done wonders for my organization


10, 12, 16



If you’re unable to help someone, help someone else. Throw some goodness or beauty in the bucket of humanity.


16



Favorite bible verse: Psalm 143:8 “Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have placed my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for to you I entrust my life.”


15



My mom used to say that one thing her mom taught her was no matter how poor they were they always had a clean house. She made sure of it.


18



Consensual sex requires no persuasion, convincing or begging.


14, 17



Work the problem backwards. Start with the solution (desired outcome) and count down from there each step. Some steps will be small, some big. But you’ll get there!


13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18



When disciplining remember: First acknowledge the emotion, then address the behavior.


2-4, 13, 15



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Assume any email or text you send will be distributed.


12, 15



When you feel like you’re on fire with anger or fear, if you can’t shake it, put that fire to good use.


14



Look up crowd cow for meat delivery.


10



Discuss difference between foods that taste good vs. foods that make you FEEL good.


12-14



Set up a 529 plan. Virginia has a great plan if you don't want to do too much research https://www.savingforcollege.com/


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I did my best to guide you, but I’m sure there are many areas where my take is just not aligned with yours. That’s okay! Bunny please don’t feel any obligation to believe what I believe or take any advice, or continue any tradition mentioned in this Coda.


21



When something is upsetting you...Name it...Take a deep breath...Imagine holding it gently in your hands. (This is a reminder to use this visualization myself and to teach it to you. I want to give you as many tools as I can to help you learn to cope with negative emotions in a healthy way.)


11



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You will come to rely on whatever you choose to help you feel better. You may even become addicted. So choose carefully. Rely on creative, positive, spirit-affirming practices to replenish yourself. Don’t fall in to the trap of alcohol/ food/gambling/smoking/sex/shopping, etc. to numb your pain or avoid dealing with difficulties. ________EVERYONE feels stress, anxiety, loss, despair, frustration and a while bunch of crappy feelings at some time or another. It’s okay to feel those things. But how you choose to DEAL with those feelings will determine a great deal in how happy your life will be.


12, 14, 16, 17, 21



“I don’t know what I think until I write about it.” - Joan Didion


15



If you’re waiting on someone to change for the relationship to work, it’s not gonna work. Love ‘em or leave ‘em. But forget trying to change them. (Same works in reverse. If someone wants you to change something about yourself before they commit, don’t walk away…RUN!)


14, 18, 21



That trope “everything happens for a reason” is, I think, b.s. But I absolutely agree that you can find meaning in anything good or bad.


17



You can’t ask someone to change who they are before you live or accept them.


12, 15, 21



Remember to $@!#% the switch when you’re stuck: If you’re all up in your head, sad or anxious, do something physical. If you’re down with a physical problem, dive into your mind for diversion and healing.


11,14, 17, 21



Check out Harmonia School on Mill St Music Art Theatre


6



Never resist a generous impulse.


9, 12, 19



Google earth app means there's always a globe at hand. Point out states, countries or oceans when we hear about them.


4-9



Start saving money early. Save as much as you can. There are plenty of things worth spending your money on, but be mindful about your money - Don’t p*ss it away.


15, 20



If you can’t afford to tip the server, you can’t afford to be there.


15



Soap and water go a long way towards fixing many problems.


12, 19



Try out Petra Lingua online language courses for kids. (Ages 3-10)


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