Ask “What are you going to teach ME?” Let him work on something to teach.


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Never consent to a search. Ask if it’s required. If not, no search. If yes, ask for your lawyer.


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Date all kinds but marry someone who loves you for who you are, with whom you feel most yourself. Someone who will encourage you to grow more into the person you want to be. (And be good at encouraging them to do same.) Never fear or stifle each other’s growth. Celebrate it. Support it. Encourage it.


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Resource: the website Ask, Listen and Learn has great material about how to start a conversation about the dangers of under-age drinking. asklistenlearn.org


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Follow love and kindness wherever they may take you and you’ll be fine. xoxo


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Check out Long Lake Summer Camp in NY. Theater, the arts, etc.


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Here’s something I wish wasn’t true but is: Looks matter. This is true for anyone but 100x more so for a woman. Take care of yourself. Stay in good shape, eat well, wear sunscreen, dress well and be well-groomed. It shouldn’t matter but it does. (But try not to judge other people by their appearance- Often times the very best people (friends, spouses, job applicants, etc.) don’t look like movie stars. Far from it!) Yes, looks matter but I hope you value true beauty more.


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Build a treehouse together


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Go to Montgomery County Fair


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Make a deal: flying lessons IF he takes dancing lessons. A man has got to know how to dance! In fact, tack on some other prerequisites like good grades and responsible behavior


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Just for the record, I didn’t vote for Trump. I want my great-grandchildren to know that.


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Practice sitting still and quiet. Make it a game. Helps with focus and impulsivity.


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There is so much darkness in the world - keep pushing back against it every way you can. Be a force for good.


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Always wear an undershirt with a dress shirt.


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There’s always a temptation to throw money at your problem. But remember there’s nothing you can buy that will make up for what is really needed. And the stuff that accumulates while you try to fix the problem just ends up being a problem on its own.


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Don’t waste big money on little things. Be intentional about what you spend.


16, 21



Camp Arena Stage


8



If someone wants to leave you, let them. Don’t waste your energy trying to prove your worth to anyone.


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I love that you got chills from watching Wicked. You were 10 and already affected emotionally and physically by music. Bonus points for listening to and acknowledging how your body talks to you.


13, 19, 21



Sex isn’t something you “score.” It’s not a competition. Whether the encounter is casual or within a committed relationship it’s something that is shared.


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Practice people skills: Firm handshake, introducing yourself, being courteous when encountering / being on receiving end of someone’s rude behavior, offering your seat (never sit while someone with gray hair, pregnant belly, any sort of injury or really anyone who is older or who works harder is standing.)


10



“1883” Season 1 episode 6 has one of my favorite scenes about grief. “When you love someone you trade souls with them. Part of them lives in you and part of you lives with them. When they die, part of you dies with them. But a part of them lives in you.” Beautiful thought.


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Time is of the essence


16



Hike Jones Run Falls at Shenandoah National Park.


11



NEVER sit while someone near you is working.


14-21



Ask him for Christmas present: recite Andy Weir’s “The Egg.” Bonus points for memorization! Also great idea for audition tape. )I’m assuming you’ll be in theater!) xoxo


15



Quoting Glennon Doyle: “Things can feel hard and sad and still be exactly right, all at the same time.” She’s referring to her divorce but the sentiment applies to all kinds of tough choices that we all make. Very few choices feel 100% right.


17



What does entitlement mean to you? I think it means the assumption that we are owed something simply by virtue of who we are rather than what we’ve earned.


10



101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think by Brianna Wiest. Listen to it yearly!


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