“When you are not fed love off a silver spoon you will learn to lick it off of knives.” Lauren Eden (poet)


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Time management skills. Look for current resources. Teach about making lists when you're feeling overwhelmed. Start with listing 5 to-do's. Tackle the top 3 of those. Then reassess. New priorities? If no, keep going down the list. If yes, add them to the list in whatever order of importance.


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“Remember Divas and Friends, if you don’t think good things about yourself, how do you expect anybody else to?” - Sheryl Lee Ralph


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“It takes about 20 years to build a reputation and 5 minutes to ruin it. If you think about that, you’ll do things differently.” - Warren Buffett


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Check out First Stage and Wolftrap performances


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Monty Python movies.


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“You can miss a person every day and still be glad that they’re no longer in your life.” — Oprah Winfrey


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Challenge: Memorize and recite The New Colossus by Emma Lazarus.


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Some people have more money than sense. Just because u can afford something doesn’t mean you should buy it.


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Lookout for the girls when you’re in a group. Some boys will try to take advantage or straight up r@pe them. Your responsibility goes beyond avoiding harming anyone. Your male privilege is a perk…earn it. Protect girls from sketchy dudes. No big deal, just help when you can and then move along. Don’t expect a cookie.


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Remember: “C’s get degrees.” Don’t tie yourself in knots over grades.


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Drunken shenanigans are part of life when you’re in college, etc. but it gets old fast. That kind of behavior as an adult is just sad. Drink responsibly. Don’t make an $@!#% out of yourself. I recommend this rule: Don’t have more than one drink at a work function.


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Try not to confuse excess with quality. It’s okay not to have the biggest house on the block. It’s okay not to drive the fanciest car.


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Find an activity / sport that they enjoy and support it. Get them outside and in the fresh air.


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“It’s best if we don’t speak for a while.” Practice it


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Shelter, water, Fire, food. (Outdoor survival priorities.)


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“You don’t emerge from $@!#% empty-handed” a friend once told me. Even the worst periods of your life will bring gifts. Be thankful for those gifts, and enjoy them.


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Check in on your friends. Even the ones that seem fine.


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Teach how to carve a turkey.


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I’d rather you be brave than perfect. Take chances. Fail, then pick yourself up and keep going.


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Just because you love someone doesn’t mean they feel loved by you. Meet the kids where they are.


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• you can't make anyone love you • not every relationship is meant to last forever • sometimes two good people can make one bad relationship.


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Have somebody take him skiing. I never learned to ski but I hope he learns to ski or snowboard.


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Consensual sex requires no persuasion, convincing or begging.


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Attend a school board meeting or some sort of government meeting. Attend / participate.


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Hand out tulip bulbs (or some sort of bulbs) at my funeral and ask people to plant a few in their yard. But NOT daffodils. I hate daffodils. And lilies, hate ‘em.) So tulips then.


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No bragging. Don’t toot your own horn.


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Stop before you descend too far into the pain. Let yourself be loved. Rest. Eat. Shower. Breath. Sweat. Sing.


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Keep your pants on until you (and your partner) are at least 18. Keep your pants on if you or your partner are drunk. Keep your pants on if you or your partner are not 100% enthusiastic about going farther.


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Some people think the world owes THEM. They have a backwards. We are servants. How can we best serve?


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