The mind replays what the heart wants to heal.


16



Purchase the card game CBT 123 on Amazon. (Cognitive Behavior Therapy teaches kids the connection between Thoughts/ feelings/ behavior)


7



When disciplining remember: First acknowledge the emotion, then address the behavior.


2-4, 13, 15



You're about to come into a ton of energy and strength. It will seem like a lot to manage at first, but you'll get used to it and learn to use it constructively. Push your limits (within reason.) Challenge yourself.


13



Explore the magic of Deer Valley YMCA Camp


07-13



Your job is to help your kids find themselves, not to implant an agenda of your own.


1, 5, 10, 15, 20



Purpose is more important than happiness. Having a purpose (or looking for it) will save you. (And sometimes finding a *new* purpose is what you need.)


16, 21



Start a tradition of setting goals for Ne Year. Keep a notebook in with the Christmas ornaments and each year we all add in whatever we want to focus on: such as our resolutions, goals, hope or plans, etc. That will be something fun to do at the end of the year when we’re taking down the tree and putting away all the holiday stuff.


8



If you can’t afford to tip the server, you can’t afford to be there.


15



Walking at night during the wintertime remember to wear a bright scarf or something reflective. So many pedestrians get hit when it’s dark outside because they’re wearing dark colors and drivers can’t see them.


15, 20



Look into YMCA “family camp” in PA.


7



“Distraction is the death of art. But boredom is the birth place of it.” (Forgot who said this)


12, 15, 21



Stuff is gonna happen! They will make incredibly stupid choices and get into all kinds of trouble. Take a beat. Be radically merciful. THAT is what they’ll remember and that is the lesson they’ll learn.


12-21



“Parents detect fake friends. Kids detect fake relatives and friends detect fake love.” - I forget who’s grandma said it.


14



Send thank you acknowledgemnt for gifts received


1-21



Eat at a local restaurant tonight. Get the cream sauce. Have a cold pint at 4 o’clock in a mostly empty bar. Go somewhere you’ve never been. Listen to someone you think may have nothing in common with you. Order the steak rare. Eat an oyster. Have a Negroni. Have two. Be open to a world where you may not understand or agree with the person next to you, but have a drink with them anyways. Eat slowly. Tip your server. Check in on your friends. Check in on yourself. Enjoy the ride." - Anthony Bourdain


18, 21



We’re born full of love. Life is about choosing where you want to put it. -xo


15, 19, 21



Always hold the door open for the next person.


4-14



1

Never post a pic to social media that you wouldn't want Grandma to see. NEVER send or ask to receive naked pictures. It's tacky, gross, illegal and not worth it. Even if "everyone does it". It's rude and disrespectful.


11-13, 18



When you know better, do better. No one is born a fully actualized human being! We are all in the process of becoming who we wish to be.


16, 21



Spend 20 minutes a day watching a show you like in Spanish (or whatever your target language is) with reactionary subtitles. You’ll pick it up in no time!


13, 16, 19



You may lose a relationship but you keep the love. It becomes a part of you. It changes you for the better.


15, 19, 21



Make a pound of ground beef go further by adding chopped cabbage or mushrooms.


19



Trying to avoid the real work makes the task 100 times harder. Do the work.


9, 15, 21



Ask”How can I be a better parent to you?” Listen.


1Infant-18



Read everything Brene Brown ever wrote.


20



Police officers and members of the military put their lives on the line to protect us. Be respectful of them and thank them for their service.


9



Read If He Had Been With Me by Laura Nowlin. Young adult coming of age story.


14, 17



Dress to people will listen to you, not look at you. (This is especially true at school and work.)


15, 18, 21



1

"Tough times don't last. Tough people do."


11-14



1