What do you think about the word “refugee?” Let’s talk about what it means. Personally, I don’t understand all the complexities of immigration policy, but I figure anyone who escapes violence and walks hundreds of miles with kids in tow, trying to get to safety and gain an opportunity for a better life for their family can live next-door to me anytime.


13



The person who lives in the body gets to say who touches that body.


5



Rudeness is a weak person’s imitation of strength.


13, 21



One of my favorite scenes in a movie is James Bond with Pierce Brosnan. Bullets are whizzing by him and he just so of gives a mildly annoyed look while focusing on what he’s doing. It’s quintessential cool.


15, 21



Marriage vows won’t “fix” anything about a relationship. They won’t change how a person communicates. Never start out a relationship with the hope or expectation that your partner will change (or if they are hoping you will change.)It’s not fair to either of you. Everyone deserves to be loved for who they are, not who they could be.


21



In social situations it's better to talk too little than too much. Don't over-share with people you're not close to.


15



1

Marry for character, not just chemistry.


17, 21



Kids make fun, it’s not nice but they just do. Just blow it off if kids make fun of you got something silly. They’ll drop it if they don’t get a ride out of you. ... But bullying is different. If kids are being mean, threatening or scary, tell me and your teacher.


7



It's natural to avoid change. Try to learn to accept change, embrace it if you can! Change is good. :)


15



Fire drills. Practice what to do, where to go if the house is on fire. Have an escape plan.


5-10



Not all babies are born healthy. There’s grief over that, a painful letting go of hopes and expectations, but eventually parents begin to dream different dreams for their baby. You have it within you to love deeply


21



Your good name is the most important credential you’ll ever have. Act with integrity in all things, that ben if it means short-term pain. Build a reputation for honesty, dependability and trustworthiness.


14, 17, 20



General rule for health and happiness: avoid excess.


10, 14, 17, 21



No threats, not even jokingly.


15



Life is hard. But it's not so hard you can't figure it out. You're going to be fine. xoxo


11-21



On marriage: Your spouse will change. You will change. Some for the better, some parts for the worse. Tastes, plans, health, body shape, education, needs, beliefs... all change throughout our lives. It’s growth. (It’s also decay!) Support each other through both. Encourage each other to be true to yourselves. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Be kind. Pray for each other. Have fun together. Keep learning about each other. Be your partner’s biggest fan.


21



Let go of things that aren’t good for you. Anger, fear, prejudice, obsession, grudges, snark, etc.


16, 21



When setting off fireworks...Keep a hose or a bucket of water nearby. Also remember Costco is a great place to buy them!


5, 7, 9



Look into Rustic Pathways to see the world and do some good.


15



Don’t be a dick.


21



Don’t ask for anything until you’ve done what has been asked of you.


5



Repeat after me: “I am beautiful I am loved I am safe I am free. I don’t need to be like them I just need to be like me.”


7, 8, 9, 13, 16



Pool safety- never touch equipment and always have a grownup present when swimming.


3-8



Build a backyard adventure camp


8



Just for the record, I didn’t vote for Trump. I want my great-grandchildren to know that.


18



Teach to use nail clippers


7



Give them marshmallows to suck on when they get a sore throat. Takes away the pain!


3,4,5,6



Chemistry is not the same thing as compatibility.


16, 19, 21



Adult whining is worse than kid whining! We all have unpleasant comments to say in every day life, but do your best to keep snarky comments to yourself. Be mindful of what you're putting out there.


12-16