“When little people get overwhelmed by big feelings it’s our job to share our calm, not join their chaos.” L.R. Knost


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Make "place value cups" as a rainy day activity and way to teach big numbers. (google, youtube or pinterest)


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Read the Hobbit aloud with him. Afterward, encourage him to read The Lord of the Rings by himself.


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Take out your aggression on inanimate things, never on people or animals.


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YouTube Randy Pauch The Last Lecture. Watch together.


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There are things you should not say: Never comment or ask a woman about her age or weight. Never comment on how many kids someone has (or doesn’t have.) The size, timing, composition, etc of someone else’s family is not your business to weigh in on. You never know who is struggling with loss or infertility, etc. And if someone announces they are expecting their seventh kid, the only correct response is “Congratulations” “How are you feeling?” etc. Just like you would if it was their first. Never ask someone how much weight they lost. If they’ve lost weight, just say “You look wonderful/amazing/ fantastic, etc.” And of course never comment on anyone having gained weight. Just say “You look wonderful.” And never never never ask someone how much money they earn or how much money they have, or how much they owe or paid for something, etc. People’s finances are personal, and are just not any of your business.


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The universe is cheering for you!


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Hydrolaunch Water Rocket outdoor sprinkler toy. Summer fun plus a little science lesson. On Amazon


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Whatever your first knee-jerk reaction is, it’s not always the right one. Sleep on it.


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Don’t quit your job until you have another job. Suck it up and make the best out of it.


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“Enthusiasm is the answer to everything.” - Rodrigo’s father


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change the wifi password often. Hold it hostage until chores are done. Work first, play later.


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I get it. It’s exhausting when they’re little. But you will never be so needed or so loved as you are during these years.


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You gotta play with them. Down on the floor, at the park, in the water, in the snow. Connect through play, it will be the foundation of your relationship.


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Keep screen time to a minimum.


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Don’t confuse impulsive with courageous.


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Some relationships (or jobs) are f*cked, and cannot be unf*cked. Release them and move on.


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If it’s the right thing, if something needs to be done… Make yourself do it. You’re never going to “feel like it.” Practice daily with things big and / or small without complaining.


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Purpose is more important than happiness. Having a purpose (or looking for it) will save you. (And sometimes finding a *new* purpose is what you need.)


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Make “good trouble” as Rep. John Lewis said. Justice is won, not given.


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Bring Christmas cookies to local fire station and police station. (Annually)


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Physical contact between two people is only fun / appropriate / legal / healthy if both people are into it. If one party objects, demurs or even acts less-than-interested, that’s the ballgame. Stop physical contact immediately. Be kind and respectful at all times.


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Jam is an incredible resource of fun learning activities and projects in a safe online environment. Ages 6-16.


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Practice your signature


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Your good name is the most important credential you’ll ever have. Act with integrity in all things, that ben if it means short-term pain. Build a reputation for honesty, dependability and trustworthiness.


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There’s a big difference between being tired and being fatigued.


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Parent the way you want your children to behave. Compassion, patience. Loving.


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Remember that your tend to act like/ think like the people you hang around most. Choose your friends (and your spouse) wisely.


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Practice sitting still and quiet. Make it a game. Helps with focus and impulsivity.


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