End of August by Robert Frost is one of my favorite poems.


Keep stuff on hand for guests. Be ready to be a good host / hostess at any moment.


Set up a 529 plan. Virginia has a great plan if you don't want to do too much research https://www.savingforcollege.com/

birth-age 3

Book “Rainbow Relatives” is a great resource to be able to kindly, accurately and sensitively answer their questions about LGBTQ families.


Just because I forgive you, it doesn’t mean I trust you. Trust has to be earned.

15, 18, 21

Try not to say insulting or hurtful things, but NEVER write them. (Texts, notes, emails, etc.)


Violent thunderstorms can be dangerous. Avoid driving or being out in severe weather: car accidents, downed trees, high winds, lightning, flash floods, etc. are all potentially deadly. Don’t take your safety for granted. If the weather is severe, stay sheltered unless you absolutely positively have to be out and about.

12-14, 16, 21

Be willing to say “I don’t know” if you don’t know! Don’t just make stuff up.

15, 20

Psalm 37:3 “Do good and trust in the Lord.” That pretty much covers it.

9, 15, 21

Date all kinds but marry someone who loves you for who you are, with whom you feel most yourself. Someone who will encourage you to grow more into the person you want to be. (And be good at encouraging them to do same.) Never fear or stifle each other’s growth. Celebrate it. Support it. Encourage it.


If they like you you’ll know. If they don’t you’ll be confused.

15, 21

Define success for yourself. Be wary of becoming a corporate coal miner. Why bust your $@!#% for years and in school so you can bust your $@!#% for years in a soul-sucking job? Regardless of compensation that is not success in my book. How do you define success? For me it's "Do good. Have fun. Belong to a tribe. Meaningful work with people you love.Make enough money to pay the bills and not have to worry about the basics."


Give people the benefit of the doubt. Unless someone gives you a reason not to trust them, assign the best possible motive to their actions.


Put down your phone and be in the moment. Teach this. Model this.


Jazz in the Garden free outdoor concerts at National Gallery of Art. Fridays during summer months.


My love for you will never run out - neither will God’s love / patience run out. I will always instruct, discipline and give consequences for bad behavior- because it’s my job to teach you. But there’s nothing you could do to lose my love. Remind them daily.


Don’t be a dick.


I’m parenting as in most things, staying calm is more than half the battle. Practice keeping your cool in all situations. No yelling blaming freaking out or meanness. Calm rules the day.

1, 21

Ask smart questions. More importantly, ask stupid questions! So many people are afraid of looking stupid that they totally fake understanding. Even in the very highest levels of career and society. Ask basic questions if something doesn’t make sense. Start at a kindergarten level understanding of a concept then build on it.

15, 20

Look into Kano (make your own computer)


Toast your wife at every occasion.


Play up your strengths. What are your strengths? What are you really good at or love doing?

13, 17, 21

“Be brave. Be resilient. Be kind. Be grateful.” -Hillary Rodham Clinton


Treat your subordinates as if you’ll be working for them someday.


Check out First Stage and Wolftrap performances


If you’re unable to help someone, help someone else. Throw some goodness or beauty in the bucket of humanity.


"Discipline is helping a child solve a problem. Punishment is making a child suffer for having a problem. To raise problem solvers, focus on solutions, not retribution.”- L.R KNost


I think the term “find myself” simply means figuring out how much of what you do/think/want/believe/care about/ feel is there because some parents, siblings, family — or institutions — or ad campaigns — or political party, or whatever put it there and fed it, vs. how much ch of all that you present to the world and to yourself, is genuine…The good, the bad, and the ugly? (Go find yourself! Tell the rest of us to F off!) xoxo

18, 21

When you know better, do better. No one is born a fully actualized human being! We are all in the process of becoming who we wish to be.

16, 21

Read (or listen to) The Greatest Generation by Tom Brokaw together as a family. It's broken up into small vignettes so it's easy to get through bit by bit.