Give book "50 Things Every Young Lady Should Know" by Kay West.


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Read Big Magic by Liz Gilbert. Re-read every 5-10 years.


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Begin again. Whether by choice or necessity, sometimes there’s no other option.


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Just because someone is an a-hole it doesn’t mean they’re wrong.


17, 21



So what you can. If you’re overwhelmed or depressed, and I can’t get it together to brush your teeth, rinse with water. Tomorrow, rinse with mouthwash. In a few days, brush without bothering to put toothpaste on the brush. This is a pretty extreme example but u get the picture. If you can’t do a load of laundry, just pick up the clothes into a pile. Tomorrow separate the pile. If you can’t face doing a full leg day at the gym, do one rep. Just do what you can, and eventually you will get up to speed. Give yourself grace, my love.


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Enjoy your success but don’t flaunt it.


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Just let a sweet moment be. There’s a time for jokes or small talk, but sometimes silence is best.


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"You think your pain and your heartbreak are unprecedented in the history of the world, but then you read." ~ James Baldwin


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You will never be good enough for the wrong person. This truth is profound and one I wish I learned a lot earlier in my life. Stop tripping over yourself to please someone who doesn’t get you.


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“Be brave. Be resilient. Be kind. Be grateful.” -Hillary Rodham Clinton


12



Learn how to sail together


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White privilege doesn’t mean that your life hasn’t been hard, it means that your skin color isn’t one of the things making it harder.


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If someone doesn’t want your attention or warrant your attention, don’t give it.


15



Google Taylor Swift contrast Kim Kardashion at 2024 Superbowl. Good vibes are always better than “cool.” Show up. Dog park energy. Forget trying to look cool.


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Make a pound of ground beef go further by adding chopped cabbage or mushrooms.


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Don’t confuse impulsive with courageous.


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Don’t play hard to get. Be hard to earn.


16, 21



People have big feelings when they realize how unjust and unfair the world can be. Totally natural and healthy. The problem starts when they channel those feelings into destructive actions and beliefs: violence, war, crime and hatred. We will be so much better off if we can learn to deal with our collective and individual pain in a way that is therapeutic and constructive. Maybe we can help each other to be creative in the face of fear, grief, pain, anxiety, anger, betrayal, injustice.


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Try silence. Just sit with it (problem/feeling/etc.) invite the problem to sit next to you and just be quiet. Five minutes every day for a week or two. Your solution will appear. Stop running and just sit with it.


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Write “thank you” notes, send pics of them wearing the outfit Grandma gave, etc. You get so many gifts...Be a grateful recipient.


7



Never trust your tongue when your heart is bitter. Hush until you heal.


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Teen years are a whole other ballgame. Find a community and stay up with trends and news. Check out the website Raising Teens Today.


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Re-Read "Girls and Sex: Navigating the New Landscape" by Peggy Orenstein.


13



Talk about how to act respectfully and be inclusive of children with disabilities and facial deformities, etc.


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Best song for a good cry: “And so It Goes” by Billy Joel.


15, 21



Let's find little ways to practice self-control and build that muscle.


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Always stand up to shake someone’s hand. (NEVER shake a person’s hand while sitting.) Always get up out of your seat to greet a guest and walk them to the door when they leave.


13



There’s a lot of virtue to the “Let them” theory of parenting. It’s their life. Drop out of school? Not what I would want, but as long as I’ve had my say, the decision is theirs to make. The mess will be theirs too, but that’s just life. Stop trying to control everyone and everything. Give yourself and everyone else a break and as long as it’s nothing harmful, let them. Don’t try to bend them to your will, and keep your opinions to yourself.


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Do what makes you happy. But what if you’re not sure what that might be? If you’re at a crossroads and you don’t know where you *want* to go, just go where you’re *needed.* That’s a good first step. Trust the Lord to take it from there.


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Happiness: Someone (or some creature) to love, something to do and something to hope for. Don’t get too caught up in the rat race, money doesn’t mean you’ve arrived.


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