Work Hard. Do your best. Keep your word. Never get too big for your britches. Trust in God. Have no fear


15, 21



Toast your wife at every occasion.


21



“But what is grief if not love preserving?” - Unknown


18



Intimacy is a feeling of safety. To let yourself be seen, touched, known, without defenses.


17, 21



Learn what triggers you. It’s probably just two or three things. Work on your issues


14, 18. 21



Concussion testing - baseline


15



Begin planning trip for 10th bday. Maybe to Atlantis in Bahamas or someplace he’d be excited about._____Get him involved in planning and saving.


8



Slow down and normalize making out without it leading to anything more. Physical intimacy can mean lots of things that aren’t sex: kissing should feel safe, personal and playful. ALWAYS be respectful and never assume that just because your sweetie is into it that they want to go farther. If your goal is to “score” do it by yourself.


15, 21



Kids Can Make a Difference is a great resource for teaching little kids about poverty and equality.


6-10



When you apologize don’t offer excuses just acknowledge your mistake, apologize for the consequences, and assure them it won’t happen again.


12, 16, 21



Ask them to name 2 current or historical figures that they admire and why (one man one woman).


6-18



Led Zeppelin, Queen, The Who, Lynyard Skynard. Listen with headphones, listen alone, listen with friends. So many more good bands but if you start with these you’ll be well on your way.


15, 17, 21



Watch Abby Wambach's 2018 Barnard commencement address together.


16



None of us should ever have to apologize for being who we are.


10, 14, 21



Be the kind of man that people feel safe around. Safe from harm, safe from judgment and safe from ridicule.


17



If it costs you your peace it’s too expensive.


19



If I’m lucky enough to make it to your wedding, I want to dance to Eddie Vedder’s cover of Song of Good Hope by Glen Handsard.


21



Show up. Be there when people are counting on you. Be at the celebrations and the funerals. Be at work and school when you're supposed to be.


12-19



Read (or listen to) A Fragile Stone together.


15



Home is where people love you.


21



Go to minor league baseball games this summer. Better seats, less crowds, easier, cheaper. Great players. Kids won't know the difference.


9-15



Isometrics for “punishment” (wall sits, arm lifts, planks, etc.)


5



Remember: “C’s get degrees.” Don’t tie yourself in knots over grades.


17, 18



General rule for health and happiness: avoid excess.


10, 14, 17, 21



Sex is not an act, it’s a pool. Stay in the shallow end for as long as possible. Have fun. Be safe. Be respectful.


15



Unkind people are unhappy people.


8, 18



Don’t stay down too long.


16, 19, 21



Attend a school board meeting or some sort of government meeting. Attend / participate.


13



At dinner time, go around the table and share your “highs and lows” for the day. (Re-ticket up to 21)


5



You can’t ask someone to change who they are before you live or accept them.


12, 15, 21