Life doesn’t have to turn out like you imagined it would in order to be AMAZING.


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Golf lessons. Grampa loved golf, if he were here he would have taught you himself.


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Stay fit. Try to increase fitness every year in some way: Strength, flexibility, endurance, or a specific sport or practice. Never take your body for granted.


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Pay attention to what people do and what they say. Try to look past their appearance. This is especially true for women, who are almost always judged primarily on the way they look.


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Ask him for Christmas present: recite Andy Weir’s “The Egg.” Bonus points for memorization! Also great idea for audition tape. )I’m assuming you’ll be in theater!) xoxo


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Sponsor a child in a developing country. Write letters, learn about their country and their life.


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Teach how to carve a turkey.


15



Success = liking who you are, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.


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What does entitlement mean to you? I think it means the assumption that we are owed something simply by virtue of who we are rather than what we’ve earned.


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The universe is cheering for you!


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Drill on stuff that will be valuable throughout their lifetime: Vocabulary, geography, addition and subtraction.


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They’re gonna be pretty mean to you for a few years. Love them, if only to spite them! (ha ha)


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Discuss the concept that “It’s not always about you.” Some days need to be about supporting someone else in their joy - or sorrow. Your needs take a backseat.


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Don’t Just “go along for the ride” in your relationships. Be clear about your intentions and act accordingly. It’s part of being a man. A GOOD man. Sometimes you just need to have a talk and make sure you’re both on the same page. It won’t $@!#% you!


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Read blog post from Parent's Corner: The Letter Your Teenager Can't Write You By Gretchen Schmelzer June 23, 2015


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"The only way to work through sh*tty feelings is to walk through sh*tty feelings." - Psychologist Kristen Howe Hard lesson, but big truth.


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Anger is the bodyguard of sadness.


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The version of you that will handle whatever problem comes your way will be born into existence in the moment when it happens. Trust your future self to handle future challenges.


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Getting dumped from a bad relationship or fired from a job that’s killing you is kind of like pooping your pants: Horrifying...but also a little bit of relief. Keep your perspective and you’ll be fine. xoxo.


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Define success for yourself. Be wary of becoming a corporate coal miner. Why bust your $@!#% for years and in school so you can bust your $@!#% for years in a soul-sucking job? Regardless of compensation that is not success in my book. How do you define success? For me it's "Do good. Have fun. Belong to a tribe. Meaningful work with people you love.Make enough money to pay the bills and not have to worry about the basics."


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Sometimes I think the best way to take care of them is to teach them to take care of others: Littler kids, sick or disabled, those who’ve been left out.


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Drinking doesn’t work like climbing a hill, it works like surfing waves. “More” is not always better. Once you feel tipsy, drinking more will make you feel *worse*. Remember “more alcohol will ruin my buzz.” Coast, recover, then okay to start again.


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Rent kayaks.


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Soap and water go a long way towards fixing many problems.


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Let your toddler brush your teeth. Goes a long way to them letting you brush theirs and it gives them a sense of autonomy and control.


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Octavia Butler’s “Parable of the Sower.”


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Talk to him about applying to Democracy Summer program started by Rep. J. Raskin.


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My favorite version of myself is when I’m not worried about what others think of me. I


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When making decisions or setting goals etc, approach from the perspective of your truest self. That’s integrity.


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Consent is more than the literal


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