Never allow anyone to tell you who you are.


17



Remind them they’re safe to feel whatever they’re feeling.


2, 12, 21



Model good nutrition and fitness routine.


4



Having an opinion is not the same thing as having an informed opinion. If you don't know enough about a subject to speak intelligently about it, keep quiet and educate yourself.


12, 18



You are a miracle. Take good care of yourself: Mind, body and soul.


21



Make “good trouble” as Rep. John Lewis said. Justice is won, not given.


14, 19



If you see a kid sitting alone, he or she might be your next best friend. Go say hi! Ask him/her to sit next to you / play on your team, etc. No need to worry about whether that person is “too cool” or “not cool enough,” they’re just a kid. Like you.


8



Create tech-free zones and times.


10, 11, 12, 13, 19, 21



Google the “tea metaphor” for a discussion about consent.


17



George Lucas’ documentaries on WWI, Russian Revolution, etc.YouTube Lucas Films.


14, 17



It's very important to me, the idea of the scale of good and bad, of beauty and suffering. I think we should do everything we can to increase the beauty and to take away from the suffering. We have to work hard to tip the scale in the direction of good.


1Infant-14



The kindest person in the room may not necessarily be the smartest. But the cruelest person is always the dumbest.


10, 15, 21



In the wise words of Taylor Swift, you don’t have to forgive or forget in order to move on. You can just…move on.


15, 21



An exercise in assumption. Have them answer “Just because I _______” doesn’t mean _________”.


10



I highly recommend you read The Crane Wife by CJ Houser.


15, 17, 19, 21



Watch Abby Wambach's 2018 Barnard commencement address together.


16



When something is upsetting you...Name it...Take a deep breath...Imagine holding it gently in your hands. (This is a reminder to use this visualization myself and to teach it to you. I want to give you as many tools as I can to help you learn to cope with negative emotions in a healthy way.)


11



1

Sometimes it just takes a while to catch on. I had to watch Game of thrones 3 or 4 times before I could keep track of all the characters and subplots. Record your lectures so you can replay them a few times.


13,15,19



Do something that feeds your soul every day. Experience or create joy, even if just a small spark of it.


17



Prayer for Teen Years ___ Please God, let them make good choices and get through these teen years with pride and not regret. ___ When they make mistakes (‘cause we both know they will) ____help me keep things in perspective, forgive easily _____and pour love into them again and again.


13, 14



When you feel like you’re on fire with anger or fear, if you can’t shake it, put that fire to good use.


14



Universal Studios


12-18



Cotillion and other social clubs abound in our area. They usually start around 5th or 6th grade. start looking into what might be a good fit. Lay the ground work that they will attend.


1Infant-12



Anger is the bodyguard of sadness.


12-15, 21



Practice making yourself do something you don’t feel like doing. Practice and it gets easier


10, 12, 15, 18, 21



When disciplining remember: First acknowledge the emotion, then address the behavior.


2-4, 13, 15



1

Institute a “leave by” time instead of a curfew. That way they won’t panic / speed if something out of their control happens to make them late. “Leave Riley’s house by 10pm.”


13



Don’t feed the thing you’re fighting.


13, 17, 21



Read JAMA article by Brooke Peterson Gabster.


18