Show up. Be there when people are counting on you. Be at the celebrations and the funerals. Be at work and school when you're supposed to be.


12-19



Treat your subordinates as if you’ll be working for them someday.


21



Replace “but” with “and.” “I love you but...” Becomes “I love you and that’s why...” etc.


9



Mackinac Island trip


10



Watch movie Sky Walk (2019) it’s about a school paper.


14, 18



Never give unsolicited advice. Instead ask “How can I best support you?”


14, 20



“The more you sweat, the less you bleed.” True in boxing and in life. Put the work in. No shortcuts.


14, 18, 21



A mommy-friend of mine gave me some good advice: "Count the wins." So what if you didn't clean the house, you showered! So what if she's wearing 9 different colors - she dressed herself! Great advice. So remember, especially on the difficult days - and there will be many: Count the wins.


1



Plan a trip to New York City to see Hamilton.


15



If you don’t have anything intelligent to say on a subject it’s fine (encouraged) to say nothing. Listen. Learn.


20



Talk to people like they belong and are valued exactly as they are in that moment.


12-14, 21



Explain the concept: "You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar."


6



Check your ego and question your motives. Are you in it for the right reasons or because of how it would look if you weren’t? Do you feel like you need to be a hero or the smartest one in the room? If the answer is yes I would strongly recommend that you get right with yourself.


13, 16, 19, 21



You remember experiences, connections. Not stuff. Don’t get too caught up in stuff.


12, 15, 17, 21



Listen to The Moth (storytelling) together.


15



When they turn 18 they should have a will, a financial power of attorney and a medical PoA.


17,18



Be generous in all things. That is my hope for you.


14, 18, 21



1

There will be some losses or changes that completely shake you to the core. But remember that some bad experiences are like pooping your pants - Totally horrible but also kind of a relief.


19



Read “Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child” by Dr. Marc Weissbluth


Infant



Choose to love despite the rage. See poem by Lucas Jones “ I Will Teach My Sons to be Dangerous Men.”


12, 14, 16, 19, 21



Learn what triggers you. It’s probably just two or three things. Work on your issues


14, 18. 21



Cut people some slack, everyone is entitled to a bad day.


17-20



Your emotional energy is sacred, and there’s nothing wrong with treating it that way. If connection is what you’re looking for, save your emotional energy for those who will cherish it and share their own. - Yung Pueblo from his book “Lighter”


12, 14, 17, 21



Beware of those forces that aim to pit good people against each other. Injustices hurt our sensibilities- as they should. So instead of bickering about who’s been wronged worse, let’s join hands and fight injustice on every front. If you get caught up in comparisons, everyone loses.


16



Consent is more than the literal


13, 14, 15, 16, 21



If you’re waiting on someone to change for the relationship to work, it’s not gonna work. Love ‘em or leave ‘em. But forget trying to change them. (Same works in reverse. If someone wants you to change something about yourself before they commit, don’t walk away…RUN!)


14, 18, 21



Don’t waste your life’s purpose worrying about what other people think about you.


12, 15, 21



Just show up. That’s all we can really control. Show up, (don’t run) and take it from there. You got this.


21