Avoid love bombing.


15, 17, 21



“I don’t know what I think until I write about it.” - Joan Didion


15



Life is for the living. It’s okay to move on. It’s okay to laugh and dream, work, to party, to rest rest, etc. you honor the dead by living your life. Everyone meets up in the end anyway!


19, 21



Practice a neutral expression: Interested but not excited. A “poker face” is a good skill to know and will come in handy a lot!


13, 16, 18, 21



Look up crowd cow for meat delivery.


10



Don't say anything out loud that you wouldn't want repeated or overheard. Don't email / text, etc. anything that you wouldn't want forwarded.


11-15



Girls: does he put in the effort even when it’s inconvenient or uncomfortable for him?


16, 20, 21



Sleep paralysis runs in the family. If you ever feel like you’re awake but you can’t move - don’t panic. It will pass in a minute. It’s just a lag time in your sleep/wake cycle.


20



Make “good trouble” as Rep. John Lewis said. Justice is won, not given.


14, 19



Read Prefontaine.


13



Have the first of many talks about what consent means. Tell them (boys AND girls) that consent needs to be informed, enthusiastic, sober, ongoing and freely given. Stress that, in no uncertain terms, the absence of consent is rape. Discuss the legal, moral and emotional consequences.


12



Be generous in all things. That is my hope for you.


14, 18, 21



1

ALWAYS pee before you sit down to nurse a baby.


Infant-1



Watch documentary The Rescue together.


15



Listen to the radio stations they listen to. Know their favorite songs and artists.


12



Explain what “On my honor” means.


8



Make sure they have resources other than us. Hotlines for teens such as Boys Town National Hotline, National $@!#% Prevention Lifeline, etc.


12



Explore the magic of Deer Valley YMCA Camp


07-13



Be weird. Be happy. Be you. xoxo


12



Favorite bible verse: Psalm 143:8 “Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have placed my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for to you I entrust my life.”


15



Ask”How can I be a better parent to you?” Listen.


1Infant-18



Be supportive of someone who is trying to better themselves.


16



Police officers and members of the military put their lives on the line to protect us. Be respectful of them and thank them for their service.


9



Micro-internships. Check out Parker Dewey for ideas.


16, 17, 18



Choosing to take the easy way out will create a life that’s difficult, disappointing and dull. Don’t shy away from hard work. Mind, body, spirit, relationships, community engagement, serving others - all of these things require a ton of effort on your part. But the more you choose to invest your time and energy into what is important to you, the more your life will take shape. Take the easy way out and you’ll see things start to disintegrate. Hard work makes you who you are.


13, 16, 21



Let’s find an activity where you can work with your hands


11



Always wear an undershirt underneath a dress shirt.


13



Give book "50 Things Every Young Lady Should Know" by Kay West.


14



Typically, brains aren’t mature until about age 25. ADHD brains take longer


17, 21



People who have something to prove are dangerous to themselves and others. We are all worthy of love. Remember that.


11, 13, 17, 19, 21