A mommy-friend of mine gave me some good advice: "Count the wins." So what if you didn't clean the house, you showered! So what if she's wearing 9 different colors - she dressed herself! Great advice. So remember, especially on the difficult days - and there will be many: Count the wins.


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Read the instructions. Don't ask for help if you've been given instructions but haven't yet read them. RTFM. (Read the flippin' manual.)


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Educate About Risks of Driving


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Before a play date or sleepover ask the parent “Are there any unlocked guns in the house?”


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Watch YouTube video on how to administer an Epi-pen injection. You have friends with allergies you may need to know how to do this.


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Watch movie Sky Walk (2019) it’s about a school paper.


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Trust yourself.


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Harm springs from excess.


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Look into Kano (make your own computer)


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Life is for the living. It’s okay to move on. It’s okay to laugh and dream, work, to party, to rest rest, etc. you honor the dead by living your life. Everyone meets up in the end anyway!


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Soothe a newborn: Swaddle , shushing noise, swing, side/stomach position, suck on a binkie. Read The Happiest Baby on the Block by Dr. Harvey Karp (or watch the video.) It' a life-saver.


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Discuss the definition And ramifications of sexual misconduct (harassment, consent, etc.)


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When they’re upset just ask what they need: space, distraction, or talk about it.


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change the wifi password often. Hold it hostage until chores are done. Work first, play later.


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Two big things. Control yourself, not others. Learn to react less.


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Happiness: Someone (or some creature) to love, something to do and something to hope for. Don’t get too caught up in the rat race, money doesn’t mean you’ve arrived.


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American Sign Language course


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The next world is perfect and permanent. This world is neither, so save yourself the stress of trying to make things perfect (house, job, body, relationships, bank account, etc.) Embrace the impermanence by cherishing the good times. Know that the bad times won’t last. Remember that you are loved very much, and that God will shower you with the grace you need to handle whatever this imperfect life throws at you.


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Behind every behavior is a need.


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Be the kind of man that people feel safe around. Safe from harm, safe from judgment and safe from ridicule.


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Micro-internships. Check out Parker Dewey for ideas.


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Consensual sex requires no persuasion, convincing or begging.


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6 luxuries in life: 1. time 2. health 3. a quiet mind 4. slow mornings 5. ability to travel 6. house full of love -jade bonacolta


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One of the best things you can do for yourself is to cultivate a hobby. Anything positive/creative you can throw yourself into.


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Relationship advice: Is she interesting? You’ll spend more time with her than anyone in your life. Does she make you laugh? Will she make a good mom? Life is long. These are the things that matter.” -Paraphrased quote from Barack Obama


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I just want to to know that I didn’t know what the $@!#% I was doing. It’s a miracle you turned out so beautifully! Just know you don’t have to have it all figured out. You’re going to have a wonderful life. xoxo - Mom


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Get at least 2, preferably 3 estimates on any major expenses for home or car.


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My favorite version of myself is when I’m not worried about what others think of me. I


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Ask “Is your belly full?” Instead of saying “Clean your plate!” Have them stay in touch with hunger/food connection.


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“It takes about 20 years to build a reputation and 5 minutes to ruin it. If you think about that, you’ll do things differently.” - Warren Buffett


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