Give books. Inscribe them. Just a line or two can turn a good book into a treasure. Great for any occasion.


17



One regret I have is how sure I was that I was in the right. Looking back I can see now that there were plenty of times when I was the a-hole. I wish I had been able to be circumspect.


14, 17, 21



There are always blessings hidden within heartbreak: a friend you would never have met otherwise, an opportunity that would never have come up, an experience, an encounter, a promotion, etc. Always look for the blessings.


9, 11, 18, 21



We can disagree with people and still be respectful of them. (When what they espouse is something that hurts people, that’s where you can draw the line.)


16



It’s not a project, it’s a practice. (Health, fitness, keeping up with current events, prayer or meditation, housework, reading, etc.)


16



Plan a few screen-free weekends every year. (Reticket until 16.)


7



We are all incurably human.


5, 15, 21



When they’re upset just ask what they need: space, distraction, or talk about it.


12



You don’t have to keep it together. Let the tears come. Feel the loss. The big feelings never last long, they are a storm you can weather. Then the sky is brighter afterwards. Grief is medicine when expressed, poison when suppressed.


19, 21



The more you want, the less you get.


14, 16, 21



Shelter, water, Fire, food. (Outdoor survival priorities.)


12, 17



Before a play date or sleepover ask the parent “Are there any unlocked guns in the house?”


6-9



Ability is distributed equally across all demographics, geniuses, artists, musicians etc. are not more likely to be born in a rich community-but they are far more likely to emerge from one with their gift’s having been nurtured. Ability is evenly distributed but accessibility is not. How many lives could be saved if the brilliant surgeon never gets to college? It’s a core mission of mine to do my part to help change that so that all children can realize their dreams if they work for it. No locked gates!


12, 18, 21



Look into going to college abroad. Research international universities. Spain, Netherlands, etc.


15, 16



When the poop hits the fan, that's when real discipleship begins.


15-18



There will be some losses or changes that completely shake you to the core. But remember that some bad experiences are like pooping your pants - Totally horrible but also kind of a relief.


19



Don’t take criticism from people you wouldn’t take advice from.


16



Practice “doing without” (or “going without.”). Even young kids can learn the concept. Nobody get everything they want. Sometimes it’s harder than others, but it’s not the end of the world when we have to do without something we want.


4-11



“Abhor what is evil. Hold fast to what is good.”


10, 12, 14, 16, 18, 21



Do the work. No short-cuts.


14



“All the best things in life live on the other side of fear.” - Will Smith’s grandmother.


20



Teach them about shaken baby syndrome.


13



Sometimes rejection is God’s protection. If u worked hard and gave it your all and still missed the bus, that bus wasn’t yours. Read The Artist’s Way.


17



Listen to the radio stations they listen to. Know their favorite songs and artists.


12



You don’t have to lower your standards, just lower your walls.


12, 15, 21



make your own latch board / "busy board" for plenty of hours of learning and entertainment. Find lots of great ideas on Pinterest.


1-2



Read (or listen to) A Fragile Stone together.


15



When something is upsetting you...Name it...Take a deep breath...Imagine holding it gently in your hands. (This is a reminder to use this visualization myself and to teach it to you. I want to give you as many tools as I can to help you learn to cope with negative emotions in a healthy way.)


11



1

Remind them they’re safe to feel whatever they’re feeling.


2, 12, 21



Ask smart questions. More importantly, ask stupid questions! So many people are afraid of looking stupid that they totally fake understanding. Even in the very highest levels of career and society. Ask basic questions if something doesn’t make sense. Start at a kindergarten level understanding of a concept then build on it.


15, 20