Sit down together and write house rules on anger. We don’t hit or bite. Do we yell and slam doors? Name-call? Say “I don’t love you” ? Bad words? What’s appropriate anger and what’s unacceptable?


4-6



End of August by Robert Frost is one of my favorite poems.


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“When happy, be kind. When sad, be kind. When ever…be kind.” - Cory Booker


9, 12, 15, 19, 21



Practice being okay with someone misunderstanding you. Not everyone is going to “get” you. That’s okay.


14, 19, 21



change the wifi password often. Hold it hostage until chores are done. Work first, play later.


9-14



I hope you find a partner with who are your most authentic self, and who you love for who they genuinely are.


15, 21



Re-Read "Girls and Sex: Navigating the New Landscape" by Peggy Orenstein.


13



Protect women from gross men: First, don’t be gross. Second, resist the urge to go along with the pack when they get gross. Third, and this is going to take courage, tell them to knock that sh*t off. Never make a girl feel uncomfortable to get a laugh. It’s not funny, it’s scary and demeaning and will teach her you can’t be trusted.


10, 14, 17, 21



Watch Ken Burns’ “The US and the holocaust.”


17



Read A Mother’s Reckoning by Sue Klebold (mother of Columbine shooter.)


12



You can waste your time trying to get people to like you, or you can be yourself- follow your own interests, learn what you think about issues and events, music and faith and conscious- and just trust. Trust that the truer you are to yourself the happier you’ll be. Trust that you’ll have better friendships and relationships when you’re around people you don’t have to pretend around or perform for. Trust.


10, 14, 17, 21



Sweetheart you don’t have room in your life for people who don’t get you. Let your light shine…and f*@k anyone who doesn’t appreciate it.


14, 16, 18, 20



Home is where they love you.


13, 17, 21



People will speak or act in all kinds of unpleasant ways. Stay calm and kind.


14-21



“Pain that is not transformed is transmitted.” Fr. Richard Rohr


14



Devotion is revealed by behavior, not intention.


15, 17, 21



“All the best things in life live on the other side of fear.” - Will Smith’s grandmother.


20



Invest in a laminator, a label maker and a glue gun. You’ll be glad you did!


5



Don’t go to sleep on a full stomach.


10, 15, 17, 19



My favorite version of myself is when I’m not worried about what others think of me. I


11, 13, 15, 17, 21



Not knowing what you’re doing is a lot less terrifying than not knowing who to trust.


14, 19, 21



Some days it feels like your world is falling apart, but what's really happening is that it's falling into place. Make good choices. Be kind. Be brave. Trust.


15, 21



Look for answers where truth, laughter, kindness, beauty, compassion and love are found. (Not in outward appearances or illusions of perfection. Not in cynicism, apathy or destructiveness.)


10, 13, 16, 19, 21



It’s okay to feel jealous. Totally normal, totally human. Just never act on jealousy.


12, 14, 16, 19, 21



Don’t be a dick.


21



Pool safety- never touch equipment and always have a grownup present when swimming.


3-8



You are not your thoughts. Focus more on your choices / actions.


17



Career is so important to your life satisfaction. Do what makes you happy. If you’re really at a loss for what you want to do for work, then go where you’re needed.


18, 21



Talk about how choices become habits. Habits can become addictions. Describe how pathways are literally dug into the brain and it's very hard to change them once those paths are made.


13-16



Trust yourself.


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