Re-Read "Girls and Sex: Navigating the New Landscape" by Peggy Orenstein.


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Learn to tie knots.


10



Remember: “C’s get degrees.” Don’t tie yourself in knots over grades.


17, 18



Do something that feeds your soul every day. Experience or create joy, even if just a small spark of it.


17



Trying to avoid the real work makes the task 100 times harder. Do the work.


9, 15, 21



“Parents detect fake friends. Kids detect fake relatives and friends detect fake love.” - I forget who’s grandma said it.


14



Attend a school board meeting or some sort of government meeting. Attend / participate.


13



Teach your pets they can trust you. Take care of them. Treat them with tenderness. Teach them how to behave. (Unless it's a cat. You can't teach cats anything.)


15



Don’t Just “go along for the ride” in your relationships. Be clear about your intentions and act accordingly. It’s part of being a man. A GOOD man. Sometimes you just need to have a talk and make sure you’re both on the same page. It won’t $@!#% you!


16, 21



If you don’t know where to begin, picture where you want it to end, and work it backwards.


15, 21



Ask them to name 2 current or historical figures that they admire and why (one man one woman).


6-18



Most brilliant TED talk I ever saw on living authentically. Step one: decide what you don’t give a f*ck about. Step two: don’t give a f*ck about those things. Always be kind and polite but never be sorry for not giving a $@!#% about stuff you don’t give a $@!#% about.


14, 21



You’ve been entrusted with so much. Think about how much of an honor that is, and how big a responsibility.


16, 18, 21



It’s hard to want something and not have it. Kids have to learn how to sit with that.


3-17



Watch Abby Wambach's 2018 Barnard commencement address together.


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We do what we do and feel how we feel because we think what we think. Our thoughts are so powerful. Let’s take each one captive today and be sure they’re the kind of thoughts we want guiding and influencing the way we live our lives.” -Lysa TerKeurst


14



When someone hurts us or REALLY pisses us off... We have to pray for them. It’s hard to stay mad at someone you’re praying for.


8-18



Look into language school. Now is a good time to start learning Chinese, Spanish or Arabic.


5-8



Anything you wear on purpose is fashion.


14, 19, 21



Consent is more than the literal


13, 14, 15, 16, 21



I’ve stopped worrying about you being able to make your way through life. You’re not even 8 years old and I can see you’re going to be just fine. You’re smart, kind, curious, hilarious and so very lovable. I worry about your safety, I stress about your health, but I don’t worry about your character. I’m so proud of you, and I love watching you grow.


14



Sometimes it’s easier to describe what a thing is *not* than to describe what it is.


14, 21



Two big things. Control yourself, not others. Learn to react less.


12, 16, 19, 21



Make a pound of ground beef go further by adding chopped cabbage or mushrooms.


19



Your emotional energy is sacred, and there’s nothing wrong with treating it that way. If connection is what you’re looking for, save your emotional energy for those who will cherish it and share their own. - Yung Pueblo from his book “Lighter”


12, 14, 17, 21



Check out Travel for Teens for summer travel programs. Let them choose from themes like service, adventure, animal rescue, etc.


14



Here’s the thing: some whacky $@!#% is about to go down. The next few years will be interesting, awesome and awful all at once. We will rely on kind and respectful communication, have as much fun as we can, forgive often, learn to let go and trust, and learn to be trustworthy. If necessary we will seek the advice of experts and the counsel of loved ones. Shifts can happen fast, for the better or worse. It seems like the end of the world but it’s not. You’re stronger and braver than you know.


11, 12, 13



If you can afford to send flowers when a baby is born or when someone dies, do so.


21



Research says working with your hands is good for your mind and spirit. Even if it’s just folding laundry or doing yard work. Let’s find a hobby u might like working with your hands.


12



Golf lessons. Grampa loved golf, if he were here he would have taught you himself.


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