Grandpa used to describe injuries and medical procedures as “It’s a nothin.” I think of this every time I have to endure something painful.


14, 18



That trope “everything happens for a reason” is, I think, b.s. But I absolutely agree that you can find meaning in anything good or bad.


17



Watch the local news together.


12



Consider the source. Consider whose company they are in. You may not know much about issue xyz but look and see who endorses them. If people you trust place trust in them.


11, 13, 15, 18, 21



No threats, not even jokingly.


15



Monty Python movies.


12-15



Toddler years: Tater tots make everything better. The smaller ones cook faster and you don't have to turn them.


2



Google earth app means there's always a globe at hand. Point out states, countries or oceans when we hear about them.


4-9



“The Greatest Generation” by Tom Brokaw Listen to audio or read together


14



Read “Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child” by Dr. Marc Weissbluth


Infant



If you don’t know where to begin, picture where you want it to end, and work it backwards.


15, 21



Sometimes progress is slow - Keep working. Sometimes change is swift - hang on!


16



Educate yourself. You can't solve a problem if you don't understand it.


14-21



Read If He Had Been With Me by Laura Nowlin. Young adult coming of age story.


14, 17



Anger is the bodyguard of sadness.


14



“It’s best if we don’t speak for a while.” Practice it


19, 21



Do what makes you happy. But what if you’re not sure what that might be? If you’re at a crossroads and you don’t know where you *want* to go, just go where you’re *needed.* That’s a good first step. Trust the Lord to take it from there.


18



Change is scary. But scary doesn’t equal bad. I don’t know what it’s going to look like but I know you will figure it out. You’re going to be okay no matter what curveballs you’re faced with. Stay calm. Be kind and respectful to everyone and every thing, including (especially) yourself. xoxo


5, 10, 15, 20, 21



Golf lessons. Grampa loved golf, if he were here he would have taught you himself.


9



Putting up the Christmas tree the weekend or next after Thanksgiving, then watching Polar Express in the glow of the lights. Maybe the smell of gingerbread cookies baking too.


5-9



Write your own job description. When you've been around long enough to know what you're good at and can identify what needs in the company you can help with.


21



Most people are good. Some are bad. Many are crazy.


15, 21



In the wise words of Taylor Swift, you don’t have to forgive or forget in order to move on. You can just…move on.


15, 21



Ask them “what would it take for you to_____?” (Keep your room clean, stay on top of your homework, feel like you had more control in this situation, etc.) Instead of nagging or lecturing, just ask.


13



Sometimes we’re just not ready to appreciate or understand a book or film or piece of art. Revisit them as you age.


19, 21



Write “thank you” notes, send pics of them wearing the outfit Grandma gave, etc. You get so many gifts...Be a grateful recipient.


7



“Pain that is not transformed is transmitted.” Fr. Richard Rohr


14



You’re gonna want to quit, many times. Whether it’s a job, a marriage, a degree, a cause… whatever. I have no way of knowing whether or not you should quit, just know that feeling like you want to quit is normal when you hit a setback or disappointment, or rejection or betrayal. It doesn’t necessarily mean you’re going to feel that way forever. Sometimes it’s best to cut your losses, sometimes it’s better to stick it out. Treat yourself with patience and compassion while you consider what’s best.


14, 17, 21



Mallomars in Christmas stockings. Mom NEVER buys Mallomars. But Santa does. (Reticket x 15 years.)


4



“In the middle of the pain you didn’t cause, the change you didn’t want, the reality you didn’t know was coming . . . your life can still be beautiful.” Lysa TerKeurst


20