We all have dark thoughts and moods every once in a while. That’s part of being human. But any sustained ideation or inclination to hurt yourself or someone else is a red flag and needs mental health intervention.


12, 14, 17, 21



Being accountable means saying that I was responsible for making sure this did not happen - but it did happen. I accept the blame and an prepared to incur the consequences. I will work earnestly to earn back your trust and confidence. The opposite of accountability is to make excuses or blame someone else for your mistake.


10, 18



Brambly Hedge series by Jill Barklem.


2-5



Yes, push yourself and see how far / fast / high you can go (physically, academically, etc.) But remember, you have nothing to prove to anyone except yourself.


14, 17, 21



Read Admiral William McRaven’s autobiography Sea Stories.


17



To quote Harvard professor Adam Grant: “Argue like you’re right and listen like you’re wrong.”


15



Camp Arena Stage


8



You can’t be a good parent if you’re a miserable person. Take care of yourself. Make the changes necessary to get in a good place. Ask for help. The happier you are, the happier they will be.


1, 10, 15



Tell them who they are: kind, creative, smart etc. A person of honor and integrity, a part of the divine universe. Demonstrate for them what it means to live according to your values. Encourage them to listen to their body, guide them on how they might best find (and align with) their truest nature. Listen to them when they’re exploring what that might look like. Support them when they decide.


1, 2, 5, 7, 12, 16, 18, 21



6 luxuries in life: 1. time 2. health 3. a quiet mind 4. slow mornings 5. ability to travel 6. house full of love -jade bonacolta


15, 21



When you’re tired, the next best thing to sleep is a shower.


16



Book recommendation: “Star Fish” by Lisa Fipps.


11



“Courage is cheaper than Channel. It works better too.” - Scott Galloway


14, 15, 16, 21



Practice your signature


13



“Pain that is not transformed is transmitted.” Fr. Richard Rohr


14



Piano


21



Talk to people like they belong and are valued exactly as they are in that moment.


12-14, 21



Plan a neighborhood "Winter Olympics" for snow days. Create indoor and outdoor events.


8



Put down your phone and be in the moment. Teach this. Model this.


7



Behind every behavior is a need.


2, 3, 4, 13, 14



Look into language school. Now is a good time to start learning Chinese, Spanish or Arabic.


5-8



Start a vegetable garden.


7



Emotional pain is just like physical wound- you can choose to ignore it but it will only fester. Address the pain. Literally talk to it, and listen to it- it’s got so much to say.


11, 13, 15, 16, 17, 19, 21



Let decency be like a religion to you. Practice it …but don’t preach it.


14



Remember the tool of “Yes. But first...” Kids ask for things they want ALL DAY. To avoid saying”no” all day, (and avoid tantrums) don’t say no. Little One doesn’t touch her dinner except for the applesauce. Then she asks “Mommy can I have more applesauce?” Tell her “Yes!” “After you finish your meat and vegetables.”


2



“But what is grief if not love preserving?” - Unknown


18



Approach difficult conversations looking to learn something, not to prove something.


16, 21



Universal Studios


12-18



Plan trip to Outside Lands music festival at Golden Gate Park


17



Happiness comes from giving and helping, not buying and having.


14, 19