Today is not the day to lose your sh*t. Deep breaths, cold water, do your hair. You’re gonna be just fine.


1-21



Talk about what’s normal and what’s abnormal reactions to alcohol and drugs. Basically all kinds of feels from euphoria to paranoia to jealousy or infatuation, etc. Getting sick is normal but blacking out is not. *Anything that could interfere with breath or circulation is dangerous.


13, 15, 17



Read maps.


9-14



• you can't make anyone love you • not every relationship is meant to last forever • sometimes two good people can make one bad relationship.


16-20



Happiness: Someone (or some creature) to love, something to do and something to hope for. Don’t get too caught up in the rat race, money doesn’t mean you’ve arrived.


20



Participate in an exchange program - either through hosting or traveling yourself & immerse yourself in the new culture


17



Start a yearly “review” right before school year. Raise allowance as appropriate. If they want more money, they’ll have to take on more responsibilities.


8



“I don’t give a rat’s $@!#% how much respect u garner out in the world if you don’t show respect and love and serve those you love at home.” ____loosely quoted from Glennon Doyle’s ‘Untamed.’


14, 19



Stay away from anything or anyone that denies or disparages a person’s humanity. (Or a group’s humanity.)


12-21



Look into going to college abroad. Research international universities. Spain, Netherlands, etc.


15, 16



Of all the things I worry about, addiction is very high on the list. Begin talks (age appropriate) about addiction.


7



“You can miss a person every day and still be glad that they’re no longer in your life.” — Oprah Winfrey


19



Read J.R.R. Tolkien's The Hobbit together


11



Your brain seeks novelty. Try new things as long as you live. Take risks (but not safety risks!)


20



When you feel like you’re on fire with anger or fear, if you can’t shake it, put that fire to good use.


14



In professional setting: Limit one exclamation point per email, if any. Definitely no emoticons.


19



Mackinac Island trip


10



When they turn 18 they should have a will, a financial power of attorney and a medical PoA.


17,18



Be ready to learn from around you. Curiosity = adventure. And when you’re curious, there’s no room for judgment.


17



Great article on making math fun: https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/how-to-get-reluctant-children-to-embrace-math/2014/03/04/4be99e46-959d-11e3-8461-8a24c7bf0653_story.html


6



Look into YMCA “family camp” in PA.


7



Biographies: Be inspired.


12



Teach them how to eat a chicken wing in one bite


12



"Tough times don't last. Tough people do."


11-14



When disciplining remember: First acknowledge the emotion, then address the behavior.


2-4, 13, 15



Watch Abby Wambach's 2018 Barnard commencement address together.


16



Being numb is not the same thing as being happy.


15-18



“When little people get overwhelmed by big feelings it’s our job to share our calm, not join their chaos.” L.R. Knost


1, 2, 3, 4, 10



Watch awards shows (Oscars, Grammy's, Tony's, ESPY's, Image Awards and CNN Heroes awards.) Be a part of your times, appreciate others' accomplishments. Be inspired.


8-18



There’s a lot of virtue to the “Let them” theory of parenting. It’s their life. Drop out of school? Not what I would want, but as long as I’ve had my say, the decision is theirs to make. The mess will be theirs too, but that’s just life. Stop trying to control everyone and everything. Give yourself and everyone else a break and as long as it’s nothing harmful, let them. Don’t try to bend them to your will, and keep your opinions to yourself.


12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18