What do you think about the word “refugee?” Let’s talk about what it means. Personally, I don’t understand all the complexities of immigration policy, but I figure anyone who escapes violence and walks hundreds of miles with kids in tow, trying to get to safety and gain an opportunity for a better life for their family can live next-door to me anytime.


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When you’re getting serious in a relationship here’s something to consider- To what extent is your partner is willing to put others’ needs before their own?


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Consent is more than the literal


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Here’s one definition of a saint: Someone who isn’t a jerk, doesn’t complain or whine when they’re sick or in pain.


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Life is difficult...Focus on the joy.


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Before a play date or sleepover ask the parent “Are there any unlocked guns in the house?”


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Be weird. Be happy. Be you. xoxo


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“If the pain was deep you will have to let it go many times.” Yung Pueblo from book Lighter


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When you feel like you’re on fire with anger or fear, if you can’t shake it, put that fire to good use.


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Affection is to be shared, never taken.


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Surround yourself with people and ideas that inspire you and captivate you. Life is too short for destructive relationships.


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The version of you that will handle whatever problem comes your way will be born into existence in the moment when it happens. Trust your future self to handle future challenges.


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When disciplining remember: First acknowledge the emotion, then address the behavior.


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Appreciate other cultures when traveling or interacting among people from different cultures. Once on a mission trip, the locals brought coffee and cookies by in the afternoons, but I never took any. I regret that lost opportunity for connection.


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Slip and Slide party!


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Test


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Read BIOGRAPHIES. So many interesting stories and valuable lessons. Historical figures, those close to them (those are often the real treats!) Also people from all walks of life, different industries. Artists, entrepreneurs, athletes, statesmen, etc. Bonus points for listening to the audiobook if subject narrates it.


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In social situations it's better to talk too little than too much. Don't over-share with people you're not close to.


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“Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as remaining where you no longer belong, or where you’re unable to be yourself and thrive.” Mandy Hall (paraphrased.)


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Never say anything behind someone's back that you wouldn't say to their face.


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My mom did laundry twice a week: Tuesdays and Saturdays. She separated colors! It never piled up and we all had clean clothes. I do laundry daily, it's never done and we can't find what we need. Ask Grandma what was her secret to the science of laundry. Because it's now your job to do all your own laundry!


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Paradoxical Commandments by Kent Keith.


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Healing happens when you give up the hope that the past could have been any different. xoxo


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Jumper cables 101


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They don’t always listen to what you say but I promise the always watch what you do. Stay calm, kind and respectful of yourself and others.


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Listen to records, a whole album at a time. 2 or 3 in a row. Bring friends, eat, drink, hangout, be goofy, dance, etc.


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My theory is that it’s pointless to chase love. You’ll never catch it. Focus on DOING what you love. When you’re being who you’re meant to be, you’ll find the one you’re meant to love. That way, love chases YOU! And love always wins. ❤️


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Re-Read "Girls and Sex: Navigating the New Landscape" by Peggy Orenstein.


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Make “good trouble” as Rep. John Lewis said. Justice is won, not given.


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Don’t give up on your dreams, but remember there will be plenty of times when you have to tweak them a bit…or a lot. I think of all the couples who were slated to get married in 2020. They either postponed or scrapped the big wedding for a backyard ceremony and bbq. How many brides had to *massively* shift heir vision and let go of what they assumed their wedding would look like. This happened to my friend and she cried and cried, of course. It was a big disappointment. But then she and her fiancé had the most charming backyard ceremony. It was small but so romantic.Now she says she wouldn’t change a thing about her wedding. I’ve got a silly example from my own dreams. I had long hoped to spend my 50th birthday on Maui with friends and family all staying at the Four Seasons. Fifty happened during Covid so I moved my dream celebration to sixty. And then come to find out tourism isn’t considered a good thing by locals in Hawaii, so will choose a different destination where tourism is encouraged and sustainable. I’m still dreaming my dream, even it looks different than I thought it would. All this to say, don’t lose heart when stuff happens and your plans are upended. Be honest about your disappointment about what’s been lost, but then be open to opportunities this new turn of events brings with it. There are always blessings hidden among heartbreak.


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