Set up a 529 plan. Virginia has a great plan if you don't want to do too much research

birth-age 3

Unkind people are unhappy people.

8, 18

Look for examples of people who have dealt with loss without giving in to bitterness. What do they have in common?


Be kinder than necessary.

9, 15, 21

Your great-great grandmother was a seamstress at Marshall Fields. Her husband was a firefighter in Chicago. The immigrated from County Wexford in Ireland.


Two instances when exercise is unhealthy: when you’re only doing it because you want to lose weight or because you’re terrified you will gain weight.

14, 18, 21

I think the term “find myself” simply means figuring out how much of what you do/think/want/believe/care about/ feel is there because some parents, siblings, family — or institutions — or ad campaigns — or political party, or whatever put it there and fed it, vs. how much ch of all that you present to the world and to yourself, is genuine…The good, the bad, and the ugly? (Go find yourself! Tell the rest of us to F off!) xoxo

18, 21

What does entitlement mean to you? I think it means the assumption that we are owed something simply by virtue of who we are rather than what we’ve earned.


Read "A Wrinkle in Time" (me too.)


If you don’t have anything intelligent to say on a subject it’s fine (encouraged) to say nothing. Listen. Learn.


Keep screen time to a minimum.


Monty Python movies.


Never open someone else's mail, or listen to their conversation, etc. If it's not your business to know, don't snoop.


Happiness comes from giving and helping, not buying and having.

14, 19

Colin Powell’s 13 rules: 1. It ain't as bad as you think. It will look better in the morning. 2. Get mad, then get over it. 3. Avoid having your ego so close to your position that when your position falls, your ego goes with it. 4. It can be done. 5. Be careful what you choose. You may get it. 6. Don't let adverse facts stand in the way of a good decision. 7. You can't make someone else's choices. You shouldn't let someone else make yours. 8. Check small things. 9. Share credit. 10. Remain calm. Be kind. 11. Have a vision. Be demanding. 12. Don't take counsel of your fears or naysayers. 13. Perpetual optimism is a force multiplier.

11, 14, 18

When you’re ready to grow up, (or when you have to even though you might not be ready) … Accept your responsibilities, gifts, and challenges with an unflinching honesty, with humility and dignity. Resolve to do good and to stay true to yourself. Remember the light inside you and look for the light in others. Be kind. Have fun! Know that you’re loved… So much.

15, 18, 21

Focus on being interesting (and genuinely interested) rather than focusing on being popular.

11, 13, 17, 21

You don’t have to have everything you want. Practice saying “no thank you” to dessert or passing on the purchase you’re considering. Benefits are plentiful: Build self-discipline (which is like a muscle) and you learn you’re really ok and often happier when you don’t indulge a “want.”

13, 15, 21