Marriage vows won’t “fix” anything about a relationship. They won’t change how a person communicates. Never start out a relationship with the hope or expectation that your partner will change (or if they are hoping you will change.)It’s not fair to either of you. Everyone deserves to be loved for who they are, not who they could be.


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Motivation: Just start. Two minutes. You don’t need to feel good to get going, you need to get going to give yourself a chance to feel good.


16



Be supportive of someone who is trying to better themselves.


16



Love isn’t enough but it’s a great start.


21



When you know better, do better. No one is born a fully actualized human being! We are all in the process of becoming who we wish to be.


16, 21



Read “Spare” by Prince Harry.


20



Plan trip to Bush Gardens late September


5



Are they (we) getting enough quiet?


8, 12-14



Play up your strengths. What are your strengths? What are you really good at or love doing?


13, 17, 21



Be intentional. You don’t get to choose what they remember.


1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10



Conspiracy theories... Where do I begin? They’re pure sh*t. They are fueled by fear and ignorance, usually peddled by people who have an agenda.


12, 16



For parties, collect cell phones and put them in a basket. "Parent calls only. Enjoy the people here! They're pretty awesome!"


12



“If you don’t know what hurts me, how can you say you love me?” From a story told by Rabbi Levi Yitzhak ....Do you know what causes him pain or anxiety? What he’s afraid of? In an age-appropriate way....Talk about our fears and the things that hurt us. He will see it’s normal to have fear and pain, and he will learn he can come to me with anything that troubles him.


8



YouTube Randy Pauch The Last Lecture. Watch together.


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Share Brene Brown's short video on Empathy vs. Sympathy: Be the bear, not the goat. Fantastic 3 minute video. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw&feature=youtu.be


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Always hold the door open for the next person.


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1

Trust yourself.


20



When the child is feeling upset or out of control, that is not the time to teach a lesson. Share your calm, be a safe place for them. When they’re feeling better, THEN teach the lesson.


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Help him write a letter to someone in power if he has a question or concern about something he sees going on in the world.


7-11



Your body and brain are always trying to protect you.


17



There is so much darkness in the world - keep pushing back against it every way you can. Be a force for good.


14, 16, 21



You can waste your time trying to get people to like you, or you can be yourself- follow your own interests, learn what you think about issues and events, music and faith and conscious- and just trust. Trust that the truer you are to yourself the happier you’ll be. Trust that you’ll have better friendships and relationships when you’re around people you don’t have to pretend around or perform for. Trust.


10, 14, 17, 21



Sioux Nation quote: No one heals himself by wounding another.


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Enrich your mind. Refresh your body. Renew your spirit. - Andrew Weil, MD.


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A mommy-friend of mine gave me some good advice: "Count the wins." So what if you didn't clean the house, you showered! So what if she's wearing 9 different colors - she dressed herself! Great advice. So remember, especially on the difficult days - and there will be many: Count the wins.


1



Dream big. Work hard.


18



I really want to see Totfino, BC. There’s no one I’d rather see it with than you. xoxo


20



"Love is nothing more and nothing less than relentlessly showing up for your people." - Glennon Doyle


18-21



Little trick for acne treatment: dandruff shampoo. Wash your face with Head and Shoulders and watch your skin clear up.


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Be kind. Be brave.


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