“Pain that is not transformed is transmitted.” Fr. Richard Rohr


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Let people do what they want to do so you can see what they’d rather do.


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Don’t waste your time with anyone who doesn’t love you for exactly who you are. Move on, because there is someone out there who will!


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Learning to keep your composure and maintain a respectful tone when you’re frustrated/angry/afraid/upset, etc. is a skill. PRACTICE it.


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We don’t always get what we want. Sometimes we have to wait. Sometimes we go without it. Sometimes when we DO get what we wanted it looks different than how we imagined it would. AND IT’S OK. We’re ok. The world keeps turning! That’s a huge lesson and a valuable one. Practice “pushing the snooze button” on wants. Enlist their help. “I understand you want ____. Would this be something you could snooze or do without?”


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Beware of those forces that aim to pit good people against each other. Injustices hurt our sensibilities- as they should. So instead of bickering about who’s been wronged worse, let’s join hands and fight injustice on every front. If you get caught up in comparisons, everyone loses.


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Give books. Inscribe them. Just a line or two can turn a good book into a treasure. Great for any occasion.


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Sometimes (oftentimes) the truth is easier to find than to face.


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Anyone who asks you to violate your values doesn’t deserve your allegiance.


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There is nothing “basic” about basic human dignity. Never treat a person as though they are put on this earth for your amusement. Everyone deserves to be treated with dignity because we’re all human beings. No matter their age, looks, status, even past wrongdoing, everyone deserves to be treated with dignity.


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When you apologize don’t offer excuses just acknowledge your mistake, apologize for the consequences, and assure them it won’t happen again.


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Universal Studios


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Choose to love despite the rage. See poem by Lucas Jones “ I Will Teach My Sons to be Dangerous Men.”


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Practice "shaking off the sleepy." It's hard to wake up when your body is screaming for more sleep. If you practice, you'll get better. Get up, get in the shower and shake off the sleepy. It works!


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If someone wants to leave you, let them. Don’t waste your energy trying to prove your worth to anyone.


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Jumper cables 101


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It’s when the sh*t hits the fan that real discipleship begins.


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Wintergreen snow sledding trip.


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My favorite version of myself is when I’m not worried about what others think of me. I


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Worst thing in the world is spending your life with the wrong person.


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My biggest mistake was thinking that my life had to follow a singular path: college, marriage, kids, stay at home mom. I never imagined any other path: career, travel. I never questioned my assumptions. Never doubted that my way was the only path to happiness. It wouldn’t have occurred to my parents to teach me anything else, to encourage me to imagine a hundred different choices. But I’d like to encourage you. Take your talents, interests, passion, and potential out for a spin. See what sits right with you, where you feel most alive and most safe and most yourself. Feed your body, mind, heart and soul. I love you so much.


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Typically, brains aren’t mature until about age 25. ADHD brains take longer


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Toast your wife at every occasion.


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Your intuition speaks in statements


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Put your purse, (wallet,bag, phone, or shoe) in the backseat with the baby. Unattended babies die every day and it’s my worst nightmare.


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Spread kindness like confetti.


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Be kinder than necessary.


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Read everything Brene Brown ever wrote.


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When you meet people in an intimidating situation, like a job interview, etc. An easy trick is to imagine them as they were in kindergarten. (Don't talk to them like they'r 5 year-olds! But relate to them on a human level. We're all human - filled with talents and fears and insecurities. No matter how "important" or "unimportant" our station is.


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Teach tuck to drive


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