Psalm 37:3 “Do good and trust in the Lord.” That pretty much covers it.


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It’s not fair to resent someone for being exactly who they are.


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Fashion philosophy: never mind the trends. Ask yourself “how do I want to be perceived today? How do I want to feel?” Go from there.


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Brennan Manning lectures and books.


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Consider what you value. Act accordingly.


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Listen to the radio stations they listen to. Know their favorite songs and artists.


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Not all babies are born healthy. There’s grief over that, a painful letting go of hopes and expectations, but eventually parents begin to dream different dreams for their baby. You have it within you to love deeply


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Technology doesn’t remove the expectation of good behavior. Be mindful of your manners (and all of our collective humanity) when posting on social media. And no anonymous trolling. If you’re not prepared to sign your name to what you’re putting out there, that’s a good indication you shouldn’t be doing it.


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Always wear an undershirt underneath a dress shirt.


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Practice "shaking off the sleepy." It's hard to wake up when your body is screaming for more sleep. If you practice, you'll get better. Get up, get in the shower and shake off the sleepy. It works!


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Imagine a hundred different lives. Try a dozen of them. Fail at most of them. That’s part of what your twenties are for. Challenge yourself. Challenge your assumptions. Change your perspective. Grow.


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Sometimes I think the best way to take care of them is to teach them to take care of others: Littler kids, sick or disabled, those who’ve been left out.


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My favorite version of myself is when I’m not worried about what others think of me. I


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Be supportive of someone who is trying to better themselves.


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“Life is good when you are happy, but much better when others are happy because of you.” -Pope Francis Endeavor to make people happy by the work you do, by the way you treat them, by your contributions to the world. But don’t ever try to make someone happy by changing yourself.


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If car breaks down, if at all possible, avoid pulling over on the highway. Get off the highway and pull to safety.


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Just focus on shining on your own terms. Your shine is not dependent on anyone or anything else.


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Figure out a way to teach the concept of zero-sum game vs. how giving and sharing actually compounds love and goodness. Someone else getting a fair shake, or attention from someone you like, or well-earned rewards or recognition does not take away from us. Celebrate those victories and encourage others to reach for more instead of jealously guarding what you have.


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Surprise! You’re not perfect. No one is. Do your best, but don’t expect perfection from yourself or any other human, young or old. Have compassion...We’re all in this together and we need each other to be kind and encouraging.


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Mindset for a breakup: “I’d rather adjust to your absence than be continually frustrated by your presence.” Can work with romantic partners, jobs, habits...anything you’re hanging on to that you know you should let go of.


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Watch the political conventions every election year. Listen and decide for yourself.


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Sex is something you do *with* someone, not *to* them. It should never be about scoring or bragging. It doesn’t make you a man. A man is someone who respects himself and others


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Surround yourself with people and ideas that inspire you and captivate you. Life is too short for destructive relationships.


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Stage one relationship: first few dates. Stage two, you really like them. Stage three, you love them and are exclusive. Stage four: you commit to building a future together. You’re going to have many stage one and two relationships. Probably a few stage three, and if you’re lucky you’ll have one or two stage fours.


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Let’s look for examples of bravery.


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Take a CPR class together. Emphasize importance of staying certified ( or making a habit of watching an online course every year on the same day, like the day after Thanksgiving or something like that.


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Practice sitting still and quiet. Make it a game. Helps with focus and impulsivity.


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Find what you love Do what you love Be what you love Live what you love Love what you love and never look back ... Except to love.


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Great quote from a divorce coach: “Your life is bigger than one man.” Your life IS bigger than one relationship. Or one job.


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Look into going to college abroad. Research international universities. Spain, Netherlands, etc.


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