“But what is grief if not love preserving?” - Unknown


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Sometimes you’ll be in the wrong side of history. When you discover you’re wrong, move to the right side of history. When I first started training as a nurse it was the early 1990’s. HIV/$@!#% was pretty new. I remember telling my fellow student I would double glove and take any “over the top” precautions I wanted to. That was my fear and ignorance talking. Amazing how cozy self-righteousness makes you feel. I was wrong. Always look at the issue through the lens of humanity.


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Try house music for focus. Spotify “uplifting trance” playlists. Better than Adderall by a mile.


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Never follow an “I love you” with a “but...” Instead, follow it with “and...” or “that’s why...” Remember this when they’re young, teach it to them when they’re older.


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Talk about the difference between not feeling comfortable and not feeling safe.


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“You can miss a person every day and still be glad that they’re no longer in your life.” — Oprah Winfrey


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Apollo 13 and The Martian Great movies about space, science, engineering, etc. Watch together.


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In marriage there will be times or occasions when one of you will be “pilot” and the other “copilot” (depending on skills, abilities, circumstances, etc.) Both pilot and copilot are good! But never be a “passenger” in a relationship.


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Typically, brains aren’t mature until about age 25. ADHD brains take longer


17, 21



Ask your emotions “why” three times.


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Don’t be a dick.


21



Fact: when you drink to excess you are significantly more likely to cause harm to someone or be harmed yourself. Being drunk means surrendering your ability to keep yourself and others safe.


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Numbing doesn’t work. Let it hurt, let it heal, then it lets itself go.


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I love the quote “The call towards authenticity is sacred” by Paula S. Williams I think it means that a few things: Being called. We are called by something higher to grow and stretch, to evolve. That evolution is a journey that should be undertaken with humility, compassion and love. To impede one’s quest to be authentic, be it our own or another’s, is a grave injustice and should be avoided at all cost.


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Newborn babies don’t know their tummy hurst because they have to pass gas. They don’t know how to fall asleep when they’re tired. We have to provide all that context and help them learn about themselves. And we have to be patient with them. It’s hard work being a baby!


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Never consent to a search. Ask if it’s required. If not, no search. If yes, ask for your lawyer.


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Your body and brain are always trying to protect you.


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Never take friendships for granted. Show up. Reach out. Be there when they need you. Friends are gifts; tend to those relationships with love.


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You remember experiences, connections. Not stuff. Don’t get too caught up in stuff.


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Watch the news together. Local and national. Today Show has both of mornings are easier than evenings.


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Work the problem backwards. Start with the solution (desired outcome) and count down from there each step. Some steps will be small, some big. But you’ll get there!


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Today is not the day to lose your sh*t. Deep breaths, cold water, do your hair. You’re gonna be just fine.


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"Dollar Store Engineering Kit:" Popsicle sticks, pool noodles, pipe cleaners, straws, light sticks, cups, etc. ALSO LOOK FOR Styrofoam gliders, Styrofoam balls, science kits, candy for candy structures, seasonal or holiday themes. Pinterest has a ton of great ideas for STEM activities.


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“A lot” is two words. (You wouldn’t write abunch as one word.) “Its” is a pronoun like his or hers (you wouldn’t write her’s) The contraction “it’s” ONLY means “it is.” They’re / there / their


10



Never give unsolicited advice. Instead ask “How can I best support you?”


14, 20



“If the pain was deep you will have to let it go many times.” Yung Pueblo from book Lighter


15, 18, 21



Turn off main water line when you leave on vacation.


21



Talk about de-escalation techniques.


15



Parent the way you want your children to behave. Compassion, patience. Loving.


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