Sex is not an act, it’s a pool. Stay in the shallow end for as long as possible. Have fun. Be safe. Be respectful.


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Seek / Accept job offers that teach you something valuable. Now isn’t the time in your life to worry about the money or status. Get experience! Have fun, learn, grow, challenge yourself and try new things.


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People want to be heard. Listen to your clients, even when they're upset. Don't make excuses or anything, just let them talk. They mostly just want to be heard. Once they're calm, you can solve the problem.


21



You always have a choice. Always.


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Be intentional. You don’t get to choose what they remember.


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Always have a 5 year plan. Be thinking of goals you want to work towards, however big or small. What inspires you? What drives you? What do you want to accomplish or cure or solve?


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Don’t confuse a broken dream for a broken future. Or a broken heart for a broken life.


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Talk about “don’t judge a book by its cover.” People come in all shapes, sizes, appearances. “Clean cut” is an outdated and misleading notion. Be open to who people are on the inside, they’re pretty amazing if you give the a chance.


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“If you can’t figure something out, figure out how to figure it out.” - Paul Graham


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Spend time with people you admire, in person and biographies, documentaries, novels and movies.


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Check your ego. Often.


17, 21



Look into YMCA “family camp” in PA.


7



Let’s talk about how we can bless people - with what we have and by how we act.


7



What problem do you want to solve in the world?


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You don’t owe me a thing. Live your life as you will. I will always love you.


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American Sign Language course


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People who have something to prove are dangerous to themselves and others. We are all worthy of love. Remember that.


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ALWAYS pee before you sit down to nurse a baby.


Infant-1



Frustrated with school or work? It bothers you because you care or you hurt. That’s human.


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Remember this: “It’s not always about you.” It’s a natural tendency to take things personally- someone’s bad mood, or not paying attention to you, or not calling, etc. But most times when we see people acting shy/aloof/crabby or mean - it has nothing to do with us and everything to do with them, and what they’re experiencing. Try (a) not to take things personally and (b) to have compassion for people, who are all going through something.


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Are they (we) getting enough quiet?


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Be generous in all things. That is my hope for you.


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“Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak. Courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.” - Winston Churchill


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Key to a happy marriage: each of you must love and support the person in front of them. Not the person you married or the person you hope they will grow into. We all change and grow. Not all of it is for the better, especially our looks ha ha. We shouldn’t make our spouse feel obligated to stay the same person they were when we fell in love with them. In marriage as in business as in life: If you’re not growing you’re dying.


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Universal Studios


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Never make a decision from a place of hopelessness.


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Jon Stewart talking about Bruce Springsteen at Kennedy Center Honors: “I didn’t understand his music for a long time. I didn’t understand it until I learned what it is to yearn.” That’s why art hits you differently at different ages. You filter the art through the lens of your life experience.


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We don’t always get what we want. Sometimes we have to wait. Sometimes we go without it. Sometimes when we DO get what we wanted it looks different than how we imagined it would. AND IT’S OK. We’re ok. The world keeps turning! That’s a huge lesson and a valuable one. Practice “pushing the snooze button” on wants. Enlist their help. “I understand you want ____. Would this be something you could snooze or do without?”


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Learn how to release energy consciously, or you’ll end up releasing it unconsciously onto your loved ones in a negative way like yelling or arguing. Breathe, sing, shout, cry, sweat, play, bake, whatever floats your boat!


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