Anger is the bodyguard of sadness.


14



Two instances when exercise is unhealthy: when you’re only doing it because you want to lose weight or because you’re terrified you will gain weight.


14, 18, 21



Consensual sex requires no persuasion, convincing or begging.


14, 17



Do feel like you’re where you’re supposed to be?


19, 21



"Tough times don't last. Tough people do."


11-14



1

Relationships can end beautifully and bravely. They’re not all going to be forever. It’s much better to grieve the end of a relationship than to endure an unhealthy one.


15, 19, 21



Discuss the concept that “It’s not always about you.” Some days need to be about supporting someone else in their joy - or sorrow. Your needs take a backseat.


11, 14, 17



“Write hard and clear about what hurts.” - Ernest Hemingway


12, 15, 21



Ask “Is your belly full?” Instead of saying “Clean your plate!” Have them stay in touch with hunger/food connection.


3



People are insecure. Be mindful of fragile egos (we all have them to a degree.) Avoid implying that people aren't doing a good job.


20



A dear friend of the family used to swear by the many healing properties of Seabreeze (alcohol based astringent.) She’d prescribe it for everything from sunburn to bug bites, rashes and scrapes. it stung like heck but she was right: The stuff is a miracle! I always keep a bottle Seabreeze around and think of Mimi every time I use it.


18



None of us should ever have to apologize for being who we are.


10, 14, 21



“People are in your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Pain comes when we try to put them in the wrong category.” - random therapist I never met.


16



"Surround yourself with people who trust and get YOU." - Josh Groban, High Point University 2018 commencement address. Note, I love that quote because it speaks to having a tribe, a close group of friends. But it's also important to surround yourself with people who challenge you, who may not agree with you or have the same perspective as you do.


14-19



Replace “but” with “and.” “I love you but...” Becomes “I love you and that’s why...” etc.


9



Partnership or pride…pick one.


21



First date going extremely well? Thinking u might score? Slow down. A woman always wants to feel like she’s worth waiting for.


20



Teach them how to eat a chicken wing in one bite


12



The person you have the most electric connection to may not be the ideal choice for a life partner.


15, 19, 21



Summer concerts at Wolftrap- get good seats so they can really get a sense of the experience.


13-16



ADHD hack for studying or projects- Leave yourself notes about where you left off.


13, 21



Jon Stewart talking about Bruce Springsteen at Kennedy Center Honors: “I didn’t understand his music for a long time. I didn’t understand it until I learned what it is to yearn.” That’s why art hits you differently at different ages. You filter the art through the lens of your life experience.


15, 21



I stopped worrying about you by the time you were seven. (I’m not talking about your safety and health, that I’ll always worry about!) But I knew you were a joyful, generous, kind, smart and well-mannered person. You were a great friend, supportive and fun. You would be a good partner, and would contribute so much good to society. I could see you had a curious mind, an active imagination and more than a healthy dose of courage.


15, 21



Don’t worry about finding your person. Focus on finding your people.


15, 21



The opposite of addiction is connection. Genuine connection can take lots of forms.


14, 17, 19, 21



I’m going to keep from telling them how to feel.


4-18



take advantage of the bike trail. Bike places as a family.


11



Watch movie Sky Walk (2019) it’s about a school paper.


14, 18



change the wifi password often. Hold it hostage until chores are done. Work first, play later.


9-14



Worst thing in the world is spending your life with the wrong person.


21