There's an old saying that goes something like "Don't focus on how big your problems are, focus instead on how big your God is." On a certain level, that's way too simple, even trite. But without discounting the real pain you might be experiencing in a moment of crisis, I encourage you to embrace that sentiment. You can't forget about the problem, but you can change your focus, and decide to cling to the goodness of the Lord.


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I read this quote in a blog when my oldest was little: "You will never be more needed or more loved than you are right now. You will long for the days when your kids were little." So true. These years are exhausting, but hang in there. You are their sun and moon.


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Learn to tie knots.


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Anything you wear on purpose is fashion.


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Favorite bible verse: Psalm 143:8 “Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have placed my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for to you I entrust my life.”


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Rudeness is a weak person’s imitation of strength.


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C.S. Lewis books. (Children’s and adult.)


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Stage one relationship: first few dates. Stage two, you really like them. Stage three, you love them and are exclusive. Stage four: you commit to building a future together. You’re going to have many stage one and two relationships. Probably a few stage three, and if you’re lucky you’ll have one or two stage fours.


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I’d rather you be brave than perfect. Take chances. Fail, then pick yourself up and keep going.


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Self-care is active not passive. (Zoning-out on the couch or sleeping all day isn’t self-care.)


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Practice staying calm under pressure. The pop-up game “Perfection” is a fun way.


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Ask them to think of foods that taste good and also foods that make them feel good. Involve them in lunchbox decisions, dinner planning and prep, etc. so they’re empowered by their food habits.


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Take out your aggression on inanimate things, never on people or animals.


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Stupid is as stupid does - it’s not something you “are” it’s something you do.


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Save where you can. Spend when you have to. Splurge every once in a while.


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Read "A Wrinkle in Time" (me too.)


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There’s a difference between looking cool and being cool. A person who wants to look cool is trying to impress other people. A person who is actually cool is true to himself /herself. Dress how it makes YOU happy! And fun fact, it’s those people who are the most well-liked because they sort of give others permission to be themselves…and everyone wants to be seen and liked for who they really are. So if you want to be popular remember three things: Be kind. Be yourself. Don’t judge


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Summer Olympics for neighborhood kids. Create events in all kinds of sports, games and skills. Mix it up so the littler ones and the less athletically inclined have something they can succeed at too.


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Respect people’s privacy. No snooping, eavesdropping, peeping, etc.


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"The only way to work through sh*tty feelings is to walk through sh*tty feelings." - Psychologist Kristen Howe Hard lesson, but big truth.


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I hope you find a partner with who are your most authentic self, and who you love for who they genuinely are.


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If it makes you happy it doesn't have to make sense to anyone else.


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Check out School of Rock (Vienna) or Bach to Rock.


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Never do two illegal things at the same time. Don’t break the law while breaking the law.


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You’re someone’s cup of tea. I don’t mean there is only one person out there for you, I mean someone is waiting to love you exactly how you are. Stop wasting time with fools who want to change you to fit their ideal.


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Surprise! You’re not perfect. No one is. Do your best, but don’t expect perfection from yourself or any other human, young or old. Have compassion...We’re all in this together and we need each other to be kind and encouraging.


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Give books. Inscribe them. Just a line or two can turn a good book into a treasure. Great for any occasion.


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Human creativity is nature manifest in us.


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Check out the website Brightly for timely and age-appropriate book recommendations. All sorts of subjects and themes.


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Be generous in all things. That is my hope for you.


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