“Success is liking who you are, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” - Maya Angelou


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Send thank you acknowledgemnt for gifts received


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Choose to love despite the rage. See poem by Lucas Jones “ I Will Teach My Sons to be Dangerous Men.”


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Numbing doesn’t work. Let it hurt, let it heal, then it lets itself go.


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So you want to be a writer- then write. Anything. Play around with it. Journal. Fiction, non-fiction, biography, obits, blogs, plays, tv pilots, whatever. You will probably suck at it. Keep writing. Write more and more. You will get better, you’ll find your flow. This w


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Read Elizabeth Gilbert’s book on creativity. Re-read every few years!


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When you meet people in an intimidating situation, like a job interview, etc. An easy trick is to imagine them as they were in kindergarten. (Don't talk to them like they'r 5 year-olds! But relate to them on a human level. We're all human - filled with talents and fears and insecurities. No matter how "important" or "unimportant" our station is.


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Two instances when exercise is unhealthy: when you’re only doing it because you want to lose weight or because you’re terrified you will gain weight.


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Figure out a way to teach the concept of zero-sum game vs. how giving and sharing actually compounds love and goodness. Someone else getting a fair shake, or attention from someone you like, or well-earned rewards or recognition does not take away from us. Celebrate those victories and encourage others to reach for more instead of jealously guarding what you have.


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You can’t ask someone to change who they are before you live or accept them.


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Bring Christmas cookies to local fire station and police station. (Annually)


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It’s fine, great, to be thrifty. But please don’t be cheap. Hard-earned money should neither be squandered or hoarded. Enjoy your success! But save more than you’re comfortable with. It’s like my running coach used to say: Keep going until you feel like you’re gonna poop your pants, then push yourself to do another mile. Point is, it should hurt a little.


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Learn about current trends in social media. Figure out where you draw boundaries, what platforms are allowed and not. Teach them how to stay safe, be positive and kind and always respectful.


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If your car is overheating turn on the heat full blast. It draws heat off the engine.


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I’m cool with “C”s. Do good work but don’t put too much pressure yourself.


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They can shower themselves if you install a hand-held shower head and install a suction cup wall-mount shower head holder lower on the shower wall. It’s easy to do and very cheap. They love it!


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Re-Read Tim Russert's Big Russ and Me.


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Give book "50 Things Every Young Lady Should Know" by Kay West.


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Any thought about self-harm is like a “check engine” light going off for your brain. Seek professional help. You will recover.


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“Distraction is the death of art. But boredom is the birth place of it.” (Forgot who said this)


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A hard day’s work is something to be proud of, not afraid of.


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Depression can look a lot like a bad attitude. Try reacting to his chronic edginess with “Sounds like you’re in pain. You can come to me about anything, any time.”


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Key to a happy marriage: each of you must love and support the person in front of them. Not the person you married or the person you hope they will grow into. We all change and grow. Not all of it is for the better, especially our looks ha ha. We shouldn’t make our spouse feel obligated to stay the same person they were when we fell in love with them. In marriage as in business as in life: If you’re not growing you’re dying.


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There will be some losses or changes that completely shake you to the core. But remember that some bad experiences are like pooping your pants - Totally horrible but also kind of a relief.


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Explore the magic of Deer Valley YMCA Camp


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• you can't make anyone love you • not every relationship is meant to last forever • sometimes two good people can make one bad relationship.


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I think the term “find myself” simply means figuring out how much of what you do/think/want/believe/care about/ feel is there because some parents, siblings, family — or institutions — or ad campaigns — or political party, or whatever put it there and fed it, vs. how much ch of all that you present to the world and to yourself, is genuine…The good, the bad, and the ugly? (Go find yourself! Tell the rest of us to F off!) xoxo


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Micro-internships. Check out Parker Dewey for ideas.


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Resist the urge to give unsolicited advice. Wait…this entire thing is unsolicited advice!


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