Be mindful of the patterns we’re falling into as a family. Teach them to be mindful of their patterns too.


6, 8, 12, 18



Life isn’t a straight line, it’s so much more complex than that! Good things, bad things, boring or interesting things are all always happening. And always changing. So are you. And that’s good.


17, 21



Take the train to Roanoke.


10



Have them practice making trade offs based on their financial priorities. For example: Pedicure or movie?


9



An exercise in assumption. Have them answer “Just because I _______” doesn’t mean _________”.


10



Brennan Manning lectures and books.


19



Great quote from a divorce coach: “Your life is bigger than one man.” Your life IS bigger than one relationship. Or one job.


16, 18, 21



The kindest person in the room may not necessarily be the smartest. But the cruelest person is always the dumbest.


10, 15, 21



“First the pain. Then the waiting. Then the rising.” Glennon Doyle


16, 21



Read (or listen to) A Fragile Stone together.


15



Biographies: Be inspired.


12



When u drop someone off make sure they’re safely inside before you drive away.


15



It’s hard to want something and not have it. Kids have to learn how to sit with that.


3-17



Put him in charge of figuring the tip out when we’re out at a restaurant. Calculate 15% or 20% etc. Also emphasize that the difference between a good tip and a great tip is usually just a few dollars but it makes a difference to the recipient. Be generous with people who are in service professions.


12-14



Book “30 Days of Sex Talks” comes in three volumes: Ages 3-7, 8-11 And 13 . Very highly rated. Available on Amazon.


4, 8, 12



Healing happens when you give up the hope that the past could have been any different. xoxo


20



“You’ll never be alone when you carry a poet in your pocket.” - John Adams Bring a book with you wherever you go.


12, 19



Robin Williams was one of the best examples of how to be a good human.


15, 19, 21



Just focus on shining on your own terms. Your shine is not dependent on anyone or anything else.


15



Philippians 4: 11-13


12



"Discipline is helping a child solve a problem. Punishment is making a child suffer for having a problem. To raise problem solvers, focus on solutions, not retribution.”- L.R KNost


2-15



If they’re not doing anything dangerous, illegal or immoral, let them be. Give them space and independence. (Just first define dangerous/ illegal/ immoral. Then remind them that you are here and would love to hear about anything they want to share.)


14



6 luxuries in life: 1. time 2. health 3. a quiet mind 4. slow mornings 5. ability to travel 6. house full of love -jade bonacolta


15, 21



Re-Read Tim Russert's Big Russ and Me.


14



Go as a family to local high school musical productions.


9-13



1

“But what is grief if not love preserving?” - Unknown


18



Sometimes the job will require you to do menial tasks. Do them enthusiastically because nothing is “beneath you.” If the good Lord can wash people’s feet, you can make coffee at the office. Get over yourself.


16, 21



There’s a great scene in Game of Thrones where Tyrion is trying to prepare for an impending siege of the city but he doesn’t know how to begin planning a defense. Until he starts thinking about how his enemy is most likely to attack. Defense is reactive, offensive is proactive.


19



Watch movie Sky Walk (2019) it’s about a school paper.


14, 18



If it makes you happy it doesn't have to make sense to anyone else.


11, 14, 20