Be intentional. You don’t get to choose what they remember.


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Get up early on a Saturday and go downtown. See how fun it is to be up before the rest of the world.


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Watch The Last Lecture before school starts on a pivotal year, like middle school, high school.


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Institute a “Wall of Fame” for accomplishments and victories, big and small. AND a “Wall of Shame” for minor infractions such as not changing the toilet paper roll, etc. We have to be willing to put ourselves on the wall of shame too - and that’s the lesson: We all make mistakes but we own up to them, fix them if possible and learn from them always. Also good fun. Start our with actual paper version but transition to a shared iCloud album to post wall of shame pics once they are old enough for phones. Maybe even continue through adulthood if they “shame” themselves!


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"You think your pain and your heartbreak are unprecedented in the history of the world, but then you read." ~ James Baldwin


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Let’s talk about hungry kids. What can we do to help? Donate? Volunteer? Start a Little Free Pantry?


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For a bad cut / gash, use a rolled up washcloth or hand towel to apply pressure until you can get to an ER. If you have to drive yourself or need your hands free, secure the towel in place with duct tape.


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To paraphrase Ted Lasso, it’s the people who think they’ve got it all figured out who delight in judging people and events. It’s better to be open minded, ask questions. Be curious, not judgmental.


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“I don’t know what I think until I write about it.” - Joan Didion


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You have yet to meet so many parts of yourself. All kinds of different people, places and experiences will draw those parts out of you.


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It’s not fair to resent someone for being exactly who they are.


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Listen to Celebrate Calm podcasts for help dealing with defiance.


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Remember when you’re faced with bullies, jerks and people who say bad things , follow advice from the Obama's: "When they go low we go high."


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Someone I admire is __________. Talk about someone you admire and why. Ask them to do the same. Do this often as you can. Reticket through age 18.


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Read (or listen to) The Greatest Generation by Tom Brokaw together as a family. It's broken up into small vignettes so it's easy to get through bit by bit.


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There’s an art to speaking harsh truths in a delicate way. There’s an art in describing a ridiculous person or thing without being insulting. Mark Twain was a master at it. Read up!


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Look into YMCA “family camp” in PA.


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A person is only as good as how they treat you when they are angry with you.


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“You will use up everything you got trying to give people what they want.” —- Nina Simone


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My worst fear is that I will be unable to reach you when you’re in pain. All I want as a parent, what my whole job boils down to, is to be there when you need me. How can I help you?


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Practice “doing without” (or “going without.”). Even young kids can learn the concept. Nobody get everything they want. Sometimes it’s harder than others, but it’s not the end of the world when we have to do without something we want.


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Participate in an exchange program - either through hosting or traveling yourself & immerse yourself in the new culture


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Make a gift of Marcus Aurelius' Meditations.


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No absolute restrictions on food but stress that some foods are “party food.” Chips, for example. (I love potato chips!)


4



Don’t stay down too long.


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Read Big Magic by Liz Gilbert. Re-read every 5-10 years.


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Rock those babies to sleep as often as you can.


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Send thank you acknowledgemnt for gifts received


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