May you make yourself proud every day. That’s my wish for you. (I will always be proud of you.) xoxo


9, 14, 21



Biographies: Be inspired.


12



Check out the Wolf Trap Children's summer theater.


4-11



Remind them there’s nothing they could ever do to lose your love. They’re so afraid of disappointing you. Emphasize the difference between making mistakes and being a “bad” person.


5, 10, 15, 21



Google the “tea metaphor” for a discussion about consent.


17



Fact: when you drink to excess you are significantly more likely to cause harm to someone or be harmed yourself. Being drunk means surrendering your ability to keep yourself and others safe.


12, 15, 18



Just put your best foot forward and get on with it!


14, 17, 21



Great article about teaching young kids how to do better than “I’m sorry” when they’ve caused another child pain. https://offspring.lifehacker.com/what-to-say-to-little-kids-instead-of-say-sorry-1819288365?fbclid=IwAR0bKgo60isKj6a5D2s3cs1leWCIyK9TXTBK62upV9U1S_bR0otfJndwg_k


3, 8



Read the instructions. Don't ask for help if you've been given instructions but haven't yet read them. RTFM. (Read the flippin' manual.)


14-21



On days when you wake up tired, sick or just not ready to deal with the morning, just get up and take a shower. Turn up the music. Rally!


17-21



Read (or listen to) A Fragile Stone together.


15



Consensual sex requires no persuasion, convincing or begging.


14, 17



We are all incurably human.


5, 15, 21



Just do the next right thing. One step at a time, you’ll get there.


13, 18, 21



“Natural” deodorant doesn’t work. Go with trusted brands here. There are times when it’s fine not to look your best, but stinky is never okay.


13, 18



Summer Olympics for neighborhood kids. Create events in all kinds of sports, games and skills. Mix it up so the littler ones and the less athletically inclined have something they can succeed at too.


8-12



Make a gift of Marcus Aurelius' Meditations.


15



Explain the concept: "You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar."


6



No one knows what they’re doing. Just be kind and brave and curious. You don’t have to have it figured out.


17



“Bullies are scared people hiding inside scary people.” -Michelle Obama


8-12



When disciplining remember: First acknowledge the emotion, then address the behavior.


2-4, 13, 15



Have dinner guests sign the under side of the dining room table. Let the kids’ friends sign too - or have their own version of a guestbook - the inside of a cabinet or the basement door, etc.


5, 12-14



Anything you wear on purpose is fashion.


14, 19, 21



I would rather deal with a big truth than a little lie. Whatever it is you’re going through we can solve it together but only if we’re both honest.


14



Keep porn to a minimum. Never at school or work. It's normal to be curious but it's really not a healthy representation of sex. Porn is a business. It's designed to get you off, not to be realistic or educational. That's not the way sex looks or how you're expected to behave. Try O.school instead.


15



You’ve been entrusted with so much. Think about how much of an honor that is, and how big a responsibility.


16, 18, 21



It matters more “how” you go to college than “where” you go to college.


16



Sponsor a child in a developing country. Write letters, learn about their country and their life.


8



With toddlers (or teens), first acknowledge the emotion. Then deal with the behavior. Validate their feelings. Once everyone is calm, address the behavior and discuss consequences if appropriate.


2, 13, 17



You are not your thoughts. Focus more on your choices / actions.


17