Healing doesn’t mean becoming the best version of yourself. It’s learning to love even the worst parts about yourself.

17, 21

Alcoholism and gambling addiction run in our family. Be very, very careful around booze and gambling.

14,16, 18, 21

“The only way out is to love yourself. That’s it. That’s all.” - Valerie Bertinelli

10, 13, 17, 21

Buy life insurance when you're young.


Spend time with people you admire, in person and biographies, documentaries, novels and movies.

14-17, 21

Getting dumped from a bad relationship or fired from a job that’s killing you is kind of like pooping your pants: Horrifying...but also a little bit of relief. Keep your perspective and you’ll be fine. xoxo.


When setting off fireworks...Keep a hose or a bucket of water nearby. Also remember Costco is a great place to buy them!

5, 7, 9

Read Thanks for the Feedback by Heen and Stone. Crucial for ADHD and rejection sensitivity. Wish I had it when I was about to launch into my career!

15, 19, 21

Help him practice having tense conversations without getting a tone of voice.


Fire drills. Practice what to do, where to go if the house is on fire. Have an escape plan.


Read The Invisible Boy by Trudy Ludwig.


Talk about how to speak up for themselves and others.

1Infant-12, 16, 21

Avoid bird seed or pet food near your home. It attracts mice, rats, ticks, etc. keep bird feeders that use seed a good distance from the house. Try liquid feeders near windows. Or use a feed tray or hulled seeds (little waste.)


Motivation: Just start. Two minutes. You don’t need to feel good to get going, you need to get going to give yourself a chance to feel good.


May you make yourself proud every day. That’s my wish for you. (I will always be proud of you.) xoxo

9, 14, 21

When they’re upset just ask what they need: space, distraction, or talk about it.


Talking to people you disagree with is sometimes difficult. But it doesn’t have to be. Enter every conversion assuming you have something to learn.

14, 18, 21

Listen to records, a whole album at a time. 2 or 3 in a row. Bring friends, eat, drink, hangout, be goofy, dance, etc.


Work the problem backwards. Start with the solution (desired outcome) and count down from there each step. Some steps will be small, some big. But you’ll get there!

13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18

"Love is nothing more and nothing less than relentlessly showing up for your people." - Glennon Doyle


Quit trying to uncrazy the crazies

17, 21

Tube first 2 or 3 years of your life I would sing to you after bath time as I was getting you in your jammies. Two songs: Oh Shenandoah and Danny Boy. Rubbing your tiny little feet with baby lotion while singing to you is one of the happiest memories of my life.


Emotional pain is just like physical wound- you can choose to ignore it but it will only fester. Address the pain. Literally talk to it, and listen to it- it’s got so much to say.

11, 13, 15, 16, 17, 19, 21

I hope you become more of yourself with every passing year. I love you so.


No bragging. Don’t toot your own horn.

11, 15, 21

You are not your thoughts. Focus more on your choices / actions.


One of the best things you can do for yourself is to cultivate a hobby. Anything positive/creative you can throw yourself into.

11, 13, 17, 21

Look for answers where truth, laughter, kindness, beauty, compassion and love are found. (Not in outward appearances or illusions of perfection. Not in cynicism, apathy or destructiveness.)

10, 13, 16, 19, 21

You can (and should) pray for help. But remember, you have to do your part too. Depending on the situation it could be a little or a lot, but don’t just sit back and expect to be rescued. Moses had to dip his toe in the Red Sea before God parted it. Ask for help, but do your part.

14, 21

Paying extra for organic isn’t always worth it but I ALWAYS buy organic apples. They taste better and don’t have the pesticides, etc.