Sad but important fact: You’ll never be enough for some people. Never. -Chasten Buttigieg


18



When you’re in a disagreement with someone or feel you’ve been wronged, it’s helpful to remember who the other person is. Are they someone of integrity? (If they’re your friend I bet they are.) Remember then, that even though they may have done something to hurt you, they were likely believed their actions were doing (or at least trying to do) the right thing. People sometimes get it wrong. Or they don’t have all the facts. Or their mind is just somewhere else. The pain you may feel from a perceived slight is probably not intentional, but even if it is, try to forgive and let it go. We’re all just doing the best we can.


16, 21



Go to College results. Org to look at graduation rates. How likely is a rising freshman at that school to stick it out and graduate in 4 years? HUGE variation, it should factor in their decision.


16



I don’t remember much about my grandmother (Marie) but I recall her hands. Her ring fingers had a funny curve to them, bowed in a little at the top. My ring fingers do the same thing. I think of her every time I notice it.


19



Have somebody take him skiing. I never learned to ski but I hope he learns to ski or snowboard.


6-11



Universal Studios


12-18



Bring Christmas cookies to local fire station and police station. (Annually)


7-14



Behind every behavior is a need.


2, 3, 4, 13, 14



Look into Rustic Pathways to see the world and do some good.


15



Don’t confuse a broken dream for a broken future. Or a broken heart for a broken life.


13, 15, 17, 19, 21



Walk up the Washington monument. No elevator!


11



“Dress braver than you feel. Act braver than you feel.” - Ray


17



Sometimes the job will require you to do menial tasks. Do them enthusiastically because nothing is “beneath you.” If the good Lord can wash people’s feet, you can make coffee at the office. Get over yourself.


16, 21



Stand up (or sit up) straight in photos. Don’t slouch or lean. (You can touch or be close but don’t lean in.)


12, 14, 21



Check out School of Rock (Vienna) or Bach to Rock.


9



Writing is thinking.


14, 17. 21



In professional setting: Limit one exclamation point per email, if any. Definitely no emoticons.


19



There’s always a temptation to throw money at your problem. But remember there’s nothing you can buy that will make up for what is really needed. And the stuff that accumulates while you try to fix the problem just ends up being a problem on its own.


14, 19



Watch Abby Wambach's 2018 Barnard commencement address together.


16



“You belong in every room you enter.” - Shonda Rhymes


6-21



Google the “tea metaphor” for a discussion about consent.


17



Go on a tour of the Kennedy Center. Free guided tours through Friends of the Kennedy Center.


10



Build a treehouse together


8



Set up a 529 plan. Virginia has a great plan if you don't want to do too much research https://www.savingforcollege.com/


birth-age 3



If you have to pretend to be someone else to get or keep a relationship or job, etc. then that relationship/job is not for you!


15, 17, 21



Read Thanks for the Feedback by Heen and Stone. Crucial for ADHD and rejection sensitivity. Wish I had it when I was about to launch into my career!


15, 19, 21



Thinking of asking her out? Want to apply for a job that sounds great? Remember you start off at “No.” You currently do not have a date with her. If you ask and she says no, you’ve lost nothing.


15, 17, 21



Mom’s scrambled eggs: Use fresh eggs. Scramble vigorously. Don’t add water or milk, just cook in copious amount of butter. Add salt and pepper.


12



Grandpa used to keep a hundred dollar bill stashed discreetly in his wallet “for emergencies.”


17