Visit Aunt Janet in Morehead City for Seafood Festival in October


2-99



Parent the way you want your children to behave. Compassion, patience. Loving.


1, 2, 3, 4



There will be some losses or changes that completely shake you to the core. But remember that some bad experiences are like pooping your pants - Totally horrible but also kind of a relief.


19



Ask the question “What are you doing when you feel most like yourself?”


16



They can shower themselves if you install a hand-held shower head and install a suction cup wall-mount shower head holder lower on the shower wall. It’s easy to do and very cheap. They love it!


4-6



That little space between stimulus and response...that’s all the control we get. That space is ours to do with. That space is fertile ground for addiction, for faith, for peace or pain. When the sh*t hits the fan, resist the urge to run away from the pain. Trying to dull it will only make it grow deeper roots.


19



Win some, learn some.


14, 17, 21



Sailing lessons.


14



I would rather deal with a big truth than a little lie. Whatever it is you’re going through we can solve it together but only if we’re both honest.


14



“Love is giving your heart without expectation.” - Dan Fogelman


16, 21



Let’s find an activity where you can work with your hands


11



“Praise in public. Discipline in private.” This is good advice for when you’re a parent and for when you’re a boss.


20



If they’re not doing anything dangerous, illegal or immoral, let them be. Give them space and independence. (Just first define dangerous/ illegal/ immoral. Then remind them that you are here and would love to hear about anything they want to share.)


14



Create tech-free zones and times.


10, 11, 12, 13, 19, 21



My best parenting advice


1, 2, 3, 6, 8, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17



If you have to pretend to be someone else to get or keep a relationship or job, etc. then that relationship/job is not for you!


15, 17, 21



You may end up being a big shot, Good for you! But check yourself. The good lord wasn't above washing his friends' dirty feet so please don't feel like you're above any task that needs to be done. Enjoy your success but stay humble.


20



“If you don’t know what hurts me, how can you say you love me?” From a story told by Rabbi Levi Yitzhak ....Do you know what causes him pain or anxiety? What he’s afraid of? In an age-appropriate way....Talk about our fears and the things that hurt us. He will see it’s normal to have fear and pain, and he will learn he can come to me with anything that troubles him.


8



Keep a pair of nail clippers in the car - much better lighting outside. Clipping tiny fingernails is terrifying!


Infant-1



People don’t abandon people they love, they abandon people they’re using.


19, 21



“You’ll never be alone when you carry a poet in your pocket.” - John Adams Bring a book with you wherever you go.


12, 19



Put him in charge of figuring the tip out when we’re out at a restaurant. Calculate 15% or 20% etc. Also emphasize that the difference between a good tip and a great tip is usually just a few dollars but it makes a difference to the recipient. Be generous with people who are in service professions.


12-14



Never give unsolicited advice. Instead ask “How can I best support you?”


14, 20



It matters more “how” you go to college than “where” you go to college.


16



I hope you find a partner with who are your most authentic self, and who you love for who they genuinely are.


15, 21



Dress for the job you want, not the one you have. Unless you're a lifeguard. ;)


16, 21



Let's find little ways to practice self-control and build that muscle.


11



1

Never pretend o know what you don’t know. But you can bluff your way through a lot of interviews just by doing a 30 minute Google search. Research the company, the industry, its governing body, key terms, awards, criticism, etc. Check out their social media.


17, 19, 21



Octavia Butler’s “Parable of the Sower.”


14



Just because someone is an a-hole it doesn’t mean they’re wrong.


17, 21