Processing an emotion means you’re not acting on it or avoiding it, you’re just with it. I like to picture it as a person and then imagine having a cup of coffee or a beer with it. Hope this helps you. xoxo

13, 16

Sponsor a child in a developing country. Write letters, learn about their country and their life.


If you get comfortable telling little lies it will be easier to tell big lies. Tell the truth, even on small matters. (Except if your friends ask if they look fat. Then it’s okay to lie!)

13, 18, 21

Go to movie Star Wars


Watch the local news together.


Don’t bring a complaint without offering a solution.

17, 19, 21

Don’t waste your time with anyone who doesn’t love you for exactly who you are. Move on, because there is someone out there who will!


Sex talk: “Forget about sex. Just play first.” Forget about making a move and just have fun. Dance, listen to music together, go somewhere exciting, look at something beautiful, read to each other, play sports, let yourself be seen and encourage them to do the same. Communicate in a hundred ways: talk/send texts/ post on social media, pass notes, whatever. “Sex isn’t the door to intimacy


Send thank you acknowledgemnt for gifts received



Follow love and kindness wherever they may take you and you’ll be fine. xoxo

13, 17, 21

Never any point in arguing with drunks or fools.


Plan a trip to New York City to see Hamilton.


Time management skills. Look for current resources. Teach about making lists when you're feeling overwhelmed. Start with listing 5 to-do's. Tackle the top 3 of those. Then reassess. New priorities? If no, keep going down the list. If yes, add them to the list in whatever order of importance.


If you sleep with a girl, always call or text the next day. Don't be a d-bag.


Look up crowd cow for meat delivery.


Start a yearly “review” right before school year. Raise allowance as appropriate. If they want more money, they’ll have to take on more responsibilities.


"Watch the pennies and the dollars will take care of themselves." - Ben Franklin This works with money and with other areas: Be faithful in the little things and the bigger things will take care of themselves. For example, if you don't get comfortable with telling little lies then you'll never tell big lies.

9, 13, 19

When something is upsetting you...Name it...Take a deep breath...Imagine holding it gently in your hands. (This is a reminder to use this visualization myself and to teach it to you. I want to give you as many tools as I can to help you learn to cope with negative emotions in a healthy way.)



A wise friend once told me that the kids will do as well as you do. You can’t be a good parent if you’re a miserable person. Do what you need to do to stay healthy and sane.

1, 5, 15, 21

Don't let the laundry pile up. This lessons extends to pretty much every chore: Stay ahead of it and you won't get crushed by it.


Worry less about molding them and focus on loving them.

2, 4, 6, 8, 10, 12, 14, 16, 17, 18, 19, 21

Hydrolaunch Water Rocket outdoor sprinkler toy. Summer fun plus a little science lesson. On Amazon


Two words: Kinetic Sand.


“If we could see our prayers we would never stop praying.” - Bunmi Laditan, by way of her angel.

11, 17

Use Shutterfly or something like it to make Christmas books and birthday books each year.


Read Just Mercy by Bryan Stevenson together.


Build a backyard adventure camp


Anger is the bodyguard of sadness.

12-15, 21

It’s best not to cuss but writing bad words is even worse than speaking them. Even in casual texting, etc. Always an asterisk in place of a vowel to avoid being rude.