Sometimes the only thing you can do is to show up. Be there.


13, 15, 17, 21



This! Your energy is beautiful and precious. Don’t waste it on people who are $@!#% bent on negativity. https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMRxcJWem/


16



Great quote from a divorce coach: “Your life is bigger than one man.” Your life IS bigger than one relationship. Or one job.


16, 18, 21



Anything you wear on purpose is fashion.


14, 19, 21



My mom did laundry twice a week: Tuesdays and Saturdays. She separated colors! It never piled up and we all had clean clothes. I do laundry daily, it's never done and we can't find what we need. Ask Grandma what was her secret to the science of laundry. Because it's now your job to do all your own laundry!


14



Read “Spare” by Prince Harry.


20



A simple trick to calm your nerves: Name 5 things you can hear right now.


5-15



Teach tuck to drive


15



Ask the question “What are you doing when you feel most like yourself?”


16



Sioux Nation quote: No one heals himself by wounding another.


16



Read “Raising a Screen Smart Kid” by Julianna Miner before you consider giving him a phone.


10



There will be many times in your life you feel powerless. What makes you feel powerful? For me, it's a good run, listening to good music with the volume on high. Prayer reminds me I'm connected to God, who is powerful beyond all measure.


14-17



My best parenting advice


1, 2, 3, 6, 8, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17



“A lot” is two words. (You wouldn’t write abunch as one word.) “Its” is a pronoun like his or hers (you wouldn’t write her’s) The contraction “it’s” ONLY means “it is.” They’re / there / their


10



Physical contact between two people is only fun / appropriate / legal / healthy if both people are into it. If one party objects, demurs or even acts less-than-interested, that’s the ballgame. Stop physical contact immediately. Be kind and respectful at all times.


15, 18



Healing happens when you give up the hope that the past could have been any different. xoxo


20



Explain the concept: "You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar."


6



You are never too old to play in the snow.


16



Considering taking meds for your mental health but concerned about the side effects? Consider the side effects of *not* taking them! Meds don’t turn you into someone you’re not, they lift the murky fog around your brain so you can be more yourself. It’s the depression that changes you. Meds just help you get rid of the fog.


18, 21



Some people think the world owes THEM. They have a backwards. We are servants. How can we best serve?


12-21



“People are in your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Pain comes when we try to put them in the wrong category.” - random therapist I never met.


16



Be willing to say “I don’t know” if you don’t know! Don’t just make stuff up.


15, 20



Try out Petra Lingua online language courses for kids. (Ages 3-10)


4



Great article on how to explain that bodies AND brains are undergoing rapid changes during adolescence. Re-read and then chat! https://www.upworthy.com/amp/this-mother-s-description-of-her-tween-son-s-brain-is-a-must-read-for-all-parents?c=ufb1


10



When setting off fireworks...Keep a hose or a bucket of water nearby. Also remember Costco is a great place to buy them!


5, 7, 9



There’s a big difference between being tired and being fatigued.


19



At dinner time, go around the table and share your “highs and lows” for the day. (Re-ticket up to 21)


5



Talk about how to be a good houseguest: Always bring something (food, wine, gift, etc) Make your bed, keep area clean. Enthusiastically accept your host’s hospitality but don’t make extra work for them. Contribute and pitch in where u can. Send a thank you note - or at very least, an email!


18



Are you proud of the work you did today? Were you respectful and kind? Did you tell the truth and look out for the little ones? If so, I’m happy. I don’t care one bit about grades.


5