Set up a dog agility course in the backyard. Use household items or toys, etc and lots of dog treats for training.


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You can’t grow in faith (or character or friendships) without learning to be humble. To forgive. To listen without agenda. To allow for the possibility you may be in the wrong. Ask for help. God will give it.


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“For better or worse means no matter what life throws at us, not no matter what you do to me.” - Brenda Linn


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You don’t have to like everyone you go to school with, or work with. You don’t even have to like your family! BUT, you have to treat everyone with respect and kindness. They are worthy of that no matter what your opinion of them may be.


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Tragedy may occur in your life, but it does not need to define your life. YOU get to do that...through the choices you make. _______I know you’ll make good ones. xo


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You tackled a big project and you're wondering if it will be a success. Ask yourself: "Was I fair?" Was I kind?" " Did I put in the work?" If the answer is yes, then rest well, no matter what the outcome. If the answer is no, go back and fix it.


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“Anger is a wonderful catalyst but a terrible companion.” - Brene Brown


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Be intentional. You don’t get to choose what they remember.


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Don’t waste your time with anyone who doesn’t love you for exactly who you are. Move on, because there is someone out there who will!


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“I beseech you, in the bowels of Christ, think it possible that you may be mistaken.” - Oliver Cromwell ……. Great example of this is the story of Dr. Anthony Fauci with regard to his HIV/$@!#% research and corresponding dealings with the gay community. They started out adversarial but Fauci wasn’t above hearing their concerns and working together. Life-saving drugs got approved as a result. Dr. Fauci is one of my heroes. Huge brain, big heart and tiny ego.


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Thinking of asking her out? Want to apply for a job that sounds great? Remember you start off at “No.” You currently do not have a date with her. If you ask and she says no, you’ve lost nothing.


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Watch Ken Burns’ “The US and the holocaust.”


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When you have no idea what you’re doing, just be kind. Be brave. Think critically and make the best decisions you can in the moment. If possible, find resources to learn what you need to know. Ask for help if help is available. Do your best and don’t sweat it.


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When you feel like you’re on fire with anger or fear, if you can’t shake it, put that fire to good use.


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Zoom out! Perspective is your friend. At certain times in our lives we have the focus turned up so high that we don’t see beyond ourselves. (Adolescence is one of those times, totally natural.) Zoom out. You’ll feel better.


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Great quote from a divorce coach: “Your life is bigger than one man.” Your life IS bigger than one relationship. Or one job.


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Give him a copy of The Secret Lives of Great Composers by Elizabeth Lunday.


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Practice road-rage roll playing. People are NUTS! It's hard to imagine how you'll react when someone gets aggressive with you. Let's practice staying calm when someone is shouting and in your face.


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Ask him to memorize and recite William Ernest Henley poem “Invictus” as a Christmas present for me.


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If you don’t know where to begin, picture where you want it to end, and work it backwards.


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One of the most important things I can teach you is to help you learn how to deal with big feelings without resorting to destructive behavior or violence. Everyone on the planet will experience loss, disappointment, grief, heartbreak, betrayal, etc. Tools to deal with these feelings: counseling, journaling, art, music, exercise, meditation, breathing exercises, yoga, being in nature, talking with friends, joining a support group, movement like dancing or skating, singing, acting, anthropomorphic dialogue with your emotions, naming your emotions and describe how they physically feel in your body. Asking the emotion what it needs you to know.


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Biographies: Be inspired.


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Focus on the lesson not the pain.


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Dress to people will listen to you, not look at you. (This is especially true at school and work.)


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Pour energy into what’s right with you and see what happens.


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Rent kayaks.


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Sometimes our bodies can betray us. Something goes wrong and healthy cells are replaced with broken cells: Cancer, diabetes, heart disease, auto-immune diseases, etc. Mental health can become diseased too: Depression, anxiety, compulsive behavior, suicidal thoughts. The very good news is that good medical care is available for all of these things. That, along with the love and support of family and friends helps our bodies to heal. Physical illness is obvious. Sometimes people keep their mental pain a secret. Please promise me you’ll never keep any pain you’re going through a secret.


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Follow love and kindness wherever they may take you and you’ll be fine. xoxo


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The opposite of addiction is connection. Genuine connection can take lots of forms.


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I hope you find a partner with who are your most authentic self, and who you love for who they genuinely are.


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