Find an activity / sport that they enjoy and support it. Get them outside and in the fresh air.


6-16



Before speaking (or texting) ask yourself three questions: Is it kind? Is it true? Is it necessary? If not all three, don’t speak. (PS “kind” isn’t the same as good news. You can deliver bad news with kindness.)


11, 14, 20



When disciplining remember: First acknowledge the emotion, then address the behavior.


2-4, 13, 15



1

Make a Shutterfly book for each year and give it to them on their birthday.


5-18



Birds of a feather flock together


14



You can’t be a good parent if you’re a miserable person. Take care of yourself. Make the changes necessary to get in a good place. Ask for help. The happier you are, the happier they will be.


1, 10, 15



Floss!!! All kinds of health benefits including decreased risk for heart disease and diabetes. Plus you get to keep your teeth. It's a no-brainer.


14, 18, 21



When they’re upset just ask what they need: space, distraction, or talk about it.


12



Turn on the closed captions on tv. Reading them is almost unconscious. Even better, set the audio to a language other than English and turn on English captions.


4-9



“You can miss a person every day and still be glad that they’re no longer in your life.” — Oprah Winfrey


19



Some books you loved when you were a toddler: Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day, Horton Hatches an Egg, Room on the Broom, Gruffalo.


2-4



Check out School of Rock (Vienna) or Bach to Rock.


9



Wintergreen snow sledding trip.


6



Respect people’s boundaries / quirks. Someone who “doesn’t fly” may have fear of enclosed spaces due to anxiety or past trauma. Someone who doesn’t drink may have had a parent who was an abusive alcoholic. Don’t laugh, question or prod. If they want to talk about it, fine. Otherwise just accept their boundaries.


15, 21



I hope you never abandon yourself to be loved or accepted by someone else. They’re not getting the real you and you’re missing out on the experience of being loved and accepted just as you are.


16,21



Practice these skills: Love yourself Respect yourself Value yourself Enjoy yourself


4, 6, 8, 12, 15, 17, 21



Honestly I think all religions are at least fifty percent bull pucky and none of them come close to reflecting the loving nature of God, which is broader and deeper than our little brains can grasp. So pick your poison. Whatever religion feels like home, like a place that can provide context for you to explore the goodness and beauty at the heart of the universe…that’s the religion for you. And if no religion fits the bill, that’s fine too. Either way, always remember and keep coming back to the knowledge that you are so very loved.


16, 21



Plan a trip someplace where we can see the Northern Lights.


15



“The beginning parts are always the scariest.” -Jackson Daily (kid reporter on Today Show.)


10, 12, 16



When they turn 18 they should have a will, a financial power of attorney and a medical PoA.


17,18



Have family game nights this winter.


9



You may lose a relationship but you keep the love. It becomes a part of you. It changes you for the better.


15, 19, 21



“All the best things in life live on the other side of fear.” - Will Smith’s grandmother.


20



Make a pound of ground beef go further by adding chopped cabbage or mushrooms.


19



Never enter into (or stay in) a relationship with someone based on their “potential.” It’s a recipe for misery, resentment and frustration.


19



Relationships can end beautifully and bravely. They’re not all going to be forever. It’s much better to grieve the end of a relationship than to endure an unhealthy one.


15, 19, 21



Start saving money early. Save as much as you can. There are plenty of things worth spending your money on, but be mindful about your money - Don’t p*ss it away.


15, 20



Teach car maintenance: Adding air to tires, checking oil, etc.


13-17



Look into YMCA “family camp” in PA.


7



Don’t play hard to get. Be hard to earn.


16, 21