You’ll miss me when I’m gone, but if I did my job right you won’t need me.


21



Your life is way bigger than one relationship. Or one grade, or one job, or one choice, or one event, or one gift. Make room for all of it even when some of it will most certainly hurt.


17



No dating while unstable. Being responsible for someone’s heart means being prepared to treat them with respect at all times, regardless of whether they make you angry, jealous, annoyed, rejected, humiliated or heartbroken. If (a) you don’t think those things could happen or (b) think there’s a reasonable chance you’d lose your temper, then you’re not ready. And that’s okay! You’ll get there in your own time. In the meantime stay off the market.


12, 14, 16, 18, 21



Play to win but play fair. Be a gracious winner. Someone has to lose. Sometimes it will be you. Don’t whine.


10



Spread kindness like confetti.


12, 21



Keep stories about younger years to tell them later: You used to call yellow “lellow” etc. Ten years from now you think you’ll remember this stuff but you won’t.


2



“The only way out is to love yourself. That’s it. That’s all.” - Valerie Bertinelli


10, 13, 17, 21



Are they (we) getting enough quiet?


8, 12-14



It’s hard to want something and not have it. Kids have to learn how to sit with that.


3-17



Never give unsolicited advice. Instead ask “How can I best support you?”


14, 20



Remember that whoever you’re grieving would only want the best for you.


20



Save where you can. Spend when you have to. Splurge every once in a while.


15, 21



When making decisions or setting goals etc, approach from the perspective of your truest self. That’s integrity.


14, 18, 21



Plan a neighborhood "Winter Olympics" for snow days. Create indoor and outdoor events.


8



Isometrics for “punishment” (wall sits, arm lifts, planks, etc.)


5



If you can’t afford to tip the server, you can’t afford to be there.


15



Dream big. Work hard.


18



Sometimes it’s easier to describe what a thing is *not* than to describe what it is.


14, 21



If you’re unable to help someone, help someone else. Throw some goodness or beauty in the bucket of humanity.


16



It's natural to avoid change. Try to learn to accept change, embrace it if you can! Change is good. :)


15



Have a yearly “review” right before school year. Raise allowance as appropriate. If they want more money, they’ll have to take on more responsibilities.


7-17



1

Tube first 2 or 3 years of your life I would sing to you after bath time as I was getting you in your jammies. Two songs: Oh Shenandoah and Danny Boy. Rubbing your tiny little feet with baby lotion while singing to you is one of the happiest memories of my life.


21



When baby has prolonged diarrhea and her butt is really sore, mix a concoction of 50/50 Aquafor and Mylanta to use as a diaper cream.


Infant-2



Micro-internships. Check out Parker Dewey for ideas.


16, 17, 18



Pool safety- never touch equipment and always have a grownup present when swimming.


3-8



Stand up (or sit up) straight in photos. Don’t slouch or lean. (You can touch or be close but don’t lean in.)


12, 14, 21



Be a good guest. Never arrive to a dinner or a party empty handed. Bring a gift: flowers, food, drink, etc.


18



This! Your energy is beautiful and precious. Don’t waste it on people who are $@!#% bent on negativity. https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMRxcJWem/


16



You’ve been entrusted with so much. Think about how much of an honor that is, and how big a responsibility.


16, 18, 21



Don't say anything out loud that you wouldn't want repeated or overheard. Don't email / text, etc. anything that you wouldn't want forwarded.


11-15



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