I hope you never abandon yourself to be loved or accepted by someone else. They’re not getting the real you and you’re missing out on the experience of being loved and accepted just as you are.


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Give baby a banana before bed and they’ll sleep through the night. (Obviously once they’re on solid food.)


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Healing doesn’t mean becoming the best version of yourself. It’s learning to love even the worst parts about yourself.


17, 21



Watch the news together. Local and national. Today Show has both of mornings are easier than evenings.


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“If we could see our prayers we would never stop praying.” - Bunmi Laditan, by way of her angel.


11, 17



Create tech-free zones and times.


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Watch Abby Wambach's 2018 Barnard commencement address together.


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Grandpa used to keep a hundred dollar bill stashed discreetly in his wallet “for emergencies.”


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Resist the urge to give unsolicited advice. Wait…this entire thing is unsolicited advice!


15



Repeat after me: “I am beautiful I am loved I am safe I am free. I don’t need to be like them I just need to be like me.”


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Doing something you don’t want to do just to look cool is the opposite of cool.


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My favorite version of myself is when I’m not worried about what others think of me. I


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Read poem “Wild Geese” by Mary Oliver. (“...You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves...”)


17



Help them develop a positive attitude. http://www.momentsaday.com/10-activities-help-young-children-develop-a-positive-attitude/


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Fall in love with a person, not a feeling.


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Intimacy is a feeling of safety. To let yourself be seen, touched, known, without defenses.


17, 21



Getting your drivers license will depend not only on government requirements (age, passing tests, etc.) but also maturity and trustworthiness.


14



Parent the way you want your children to behave. Compassion, patience. Loving.


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Shampoo their hair. Nice luxurious shampoo. It’s a treat. In “5 Love Languages” speak, its an act of service and physical touch.


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Keep a pair of nail clippers in the car - much better lighting outside. Clipping tiny fingernails is terrifying!


Infant-1



It’s fine to keep it simple when you pray: Thank You for __ I’m sorry for ___ Help me with ____ Keep _____ close to you You are awesome! I trust you.


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Kitchen knife skills. Know how to properly and safely cut, slice, chop, dice, carve, etc.


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“Your soul is more magnificent, beautiful, and gigantic than you can possibly imagine.” From short story “The Egg” by Andy Weir


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Summer Olympics for neighborhood kids. Create events in all kinds of sports, games and skills. Mix it up so the littler ones and the less athletically inclined have something they can succeed at too.


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Pool safety- never touch equipment and always have a grownup present when swimming.


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You're about to come into a ton of energy and strength. It will seem like a lot to manage at first, but you'll get used to it and learn to use it constructively. Push your limits (within reason.) Challenge yourself.


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“If you don’t know what hurts me, how can you say you love me?” From a story told by Rabbi Levi Yitzhak ....Do you know what causes him pain or anxiety? What he’s afraid of? In an age-appropriate way....Talk about our fears and the things that hurt us. He will see it’s normal to have fear and pain, and he will learn he can come to me with anything that troubles him.


8



Look into going to college abroad. Research international universities. Spain, Netherlands, etc.


15, 16



Just because someone is an a-hole it doesn’t mean they’re wrong.


17, 21



Plants eat sunlight. Eat mostly plants.


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