The moment you lose your cool, you’ve lost.


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Give him a copy of The Secret Lives of Great Composers by Elizabeth Lunday.


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Bottom line bible quote: Psalm 37:3 “Trust in the LORD and do good.” That pretty much covers everything.


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“Remember Divas and Friends, if you don’t think good things about yourself, how do you expect anybody else to?” - Sheryl Lee Ralph


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Girls forget a good bit of compliments they receive but they remember every single insult. Speak gently, remind them they’re beautiful. Never qualify it.


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Enrich your mind. Refresh your body. Renew your spirit. - Andrew Weil, MD.


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Challenge yourself to excel at something. You’ll be astonished how good you can get by practicing consistently. There’s nothing magical about high school quarterbacks or drummers. Girls like boys who have something going on.


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Challenge yourself every day, in one way or another. Mentally (read!) Is there any room for growth in an area you are struggling with? physically (take your pick but never take stupid risks with your safety), emotionally (allow yourself to be vulnerable. Apologize.), spiritually (pray/meditate/ fast.)


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Keep difficult conversations brief. Under ten minutes then table it so everyone can process.


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“Don’t ever let anyone tell you what you see with your own eyes isn’t happening.” -English teacher Read Diary of Anne Frank together.


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Sometimes when you win, you lose. And when you lose, you win. Meaning that sometimes when you get what you want it doesn’t work out well. And sometimes wonderful things happen as a result of a failure or disappointment. Chin up. There’s a million paths to happiness and fulfillment. If one doesn’t work out your will find another.


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Kitchen knife skills. Know how to properly and safely cut, slice, chop, dice, carve, etc.


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You can be angry. But you can’t drive while angry or talk to a child or work, or do anything dangerous when you’re angry.


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Turn on the closed captions on tv. Reading them is almost unconscious. Even better, set the audio to a language other than English and turn on English captions.


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I read this quote in a blog when my oldest was little: "You will never be more needed or more loved than you are right now. You will long for the days when your kids were little." So true. These years are exhausting, but hang in there. You are their sun and moon.


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Book “Rainbow Relatives” is a great resource to be able to kindly, accurately and sensitively answer their questions about LGBTQ families.


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Being accountable means saying that I was responsible for making sure this did not happen - but it did happen. I accept the blame and an prepared to incur the consequences. I will work earnestly to earn back your trust and confidence. The opposite of accountability is to make excuses or blame someone else for your mistake.


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ABC's of video game addiction: Autonomy, Belonging, Control. Try to find ways to developing these things in areas outside of gaming. Games are great, but not at the expense of everything else.


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The most important things I can teach you is how to love and be loved


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Read the instructions. Don't ask for help if you've been given instructions but haven't yet read them. RTFM. (Read the flippin' manual.)


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Rain, snow or sleet...Always return the shopping cart to the proper spot in the parking lot.


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Re-Read Tim Russert's Big Russ and Me.


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“It’s alright to be yourself. There ARE people in this world who will love you.” -Fred Rogers


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Teach them how to eat a chicken wing in one bite


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When I say I want you to be happy I’m not talking about pleasure and ease. I mean purpose and pride you in yourself, meaningful work, and a solid group of friends and family who loves you for who you are, so you don’t ever have to pretend to be something you’re not.


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Whether they’re young or old, try not to under-estimate people. Most people will impress the heck out of you.


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Play to win but play fair. Be a gracious winner. Someone has to lose. Sometimes it will be you. Don’t whine.


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You think you’re smart now but just wait. Your brain is just getting warmed up. Feed it: books, travel, music, mushrooms.


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When he comes to you and tells you he’s in trouble, stay calm. Ask “How can I help you?” Figure it out together. No matter how old he is, he needs to know you’re on his side. There will be time for lessons and consequences, etc. But first, help.


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