Think about building a career. Take low-paying or no-paying jobs that will give you the experience you need to build it. It's not all about the paycheck, especially when you're young and don't have too many bills to pay.


When you’re older, remember that stuff like video games, alcohol, junk food, gambling, porn, and a whole host of other vices can turn on you, and become an addiction that wrecks your health, relationships or even your life. You don’t have to give up all this stuff, but keep them to a minimum. How often and how much is a big difference. It’s the difference between meeting a friend for a beer or two and walking into work hungover most days. Remember: You decide- How often and how much.

13, 16, 19

Sweetheart you don’t have room in your life for people who don’t get you. Let your light shine…and f*@k anyone who doesn’t appreciate it.

14, 16, 18, 20

Paying extra for organic isn’t always worth it but I ALWAYS buy organic apples. They taste better and don’t have the pesticides, etc.


You’re gonna want to quit, many times. Whether it’s a job, a marriage, a degree, a cause… whatever. I have no way of knowing whether or not you should quit, just know that feeling like you want to quit is normal when you hit a setback or disappointment, or rejection or betrayal. It doesn’t necessarily mean you’re going to feel that way forever. Sometimes it’s best to cut your losses, sometimes it’s better to stick it out. Treat yourself with patience and compassion while you consider what’s best.

14, 17, 21

Sponsor a child in a developing country. Write letters, learn about their country and their life.


Action is the antidote to anxiety.

12, 14, 17, 21

Birthday traditions: 1) Plant something every year. 2) Birthday interview on camera or voice recording.


Drills (Writing pages of lines, grammar games,etc) Contractions, pronouns, commonly misspelled words, homophones like their and they’re, etc.) Drill drill drill! Written communication is so important and a simple mistake could cost big points at work.)


Create tech-free zones and times.

10, 11, 12, 13, 19, 21

Kids (and people of all ages) need attention, affection and appreciation. It’s not all they need, but it’s a start!


You’re going to be okay if your relationship ends. You were a whole person before them and you’ll be a whole person after. - therapy Jeff

15, 21

The version of you that will handle whatever problem comes your way will be born into existence in the moment when it happens. Trust your future self to handle future challenges.

12, 15, 21

Go to movie Star Wars


Honestly I think all religions are at least fifty percent bull pucky and none of them come close to reflecting the loving nature of God, which is broader and deeper than our little brains can grasp. So pick your poison. Whatever religion feels like home, like a place that can provide context for you to explore the goodness and beauty at the heart of the universe…that’s the religion for you. And if no religion fits the bill, that’s fine too. Either way, always remember and keep coming back to the knowledge that you are so very loved.

16, 21

If it makes you happy it doesn't have to make sense to anyone else.

11, 14, 20

“ It was my high school drama teacher who made sure I knew there was space for me in this world. Her kind words had a tremendous impact on my life. If you don’t know where to begin, start with “I see you. I love you. I’m so happy you’re here.”   -Chasten Buttigieg


Make a separate piggie bank together for money to donate. Talk about how we manage what we have thoughtfully: Save some, spend some, donate some.


Offer gifts to the Lord. Maybe it's your school work, or your career, or the kid you raise, or your life in general. Wrap it up and make it a present to the Lord.


“Success is liking who you are, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” - Maya Angelou

13, 15, 21

I hope you find a partner with who are your most authentic self, and who you love for who they genuinely are.

15, 21

Review basic grammar mistakes: Their, they’re and there. “It’s” and “its” “a lot”, etc.


Live a life of dignity and joy.

14, 21

Just for the record, I didn’t vote for Trump. I want my great-grandchildren to know that.


Check out School of Rock (Vienna) or Bach to Rock.


Just love ‘em up. Be patient and kind. Be present. Listen. Play. Take care of their needs. Each one will be different and need you in different ways. That’s all, just fill them with love and security and they’ll grow up beautifully.


Watch documentary The Rescue together.


Home is where they love you.

13, 17, 21

Stand up (or sit up) straight in photos. Don’t slouch or lean. (You can touch or be close but don’t lean in.)

12, 14, 21

The better you eat, the better you feel. (And look.) if you eat like sh*t you’re going to feel like sh*t. Eat your vegetables! xoxo

17, 21