I don’t buy Mallomars. But Santa does. Another Christmas stocking tradition is chicken flickin. Rubber chickens you shoot like rubber bands.


5, 21



Caps Game this year.


11



Don’t quit your job until you have another job. Suck it up and make the best out of it.


21



Kitchen Commandment: She who cooks the dinner shall not clean up from dinner. I don't want to raise any of you to take housework for granted. It's hard. It's unfair and not cool to expect anyone (parent, spouse, roommate, etc. )to wait on you.


7-18



Change the furniture around in your dorm, apartment or bedroom every once in a while. It’s an easy way to break up a timeline like for a holiday a season or after a breakup, etc.


18



Practice road-rage roll playing. People are NUTS! It's hard to imagine how you'll react when someone gets aggressive with you. Let's practice staying calm when someone is shouting and in your face.


15-17



Adjust your expectations but never lower your standards.


12, 15, 18, 21



An exercise in assumption. Have them answer “Just because I _______” doesn’t mean _________”.


10



"Tough times don't last. Tough people do."


11-14



1

Compete for the last meatball at Sunday dinner: Biggest burp, telling the best story, finished vegetables first, etc.


5



Kindness is magic.


11, 15, 21



Summer concerts at Wolftrap- get good seats so they can really get a sense of the experience.


13-16



Consensual sex requires no persuasion, convincing or begging.


14, 17



Get talking. Trade off likes, fears, hopes, dreams, pet peeves, etc. I like... I get mad when... I dream about... It makes me sad when I see... I’m afraid of... I wonder about...


4, 8, 14



Walk up the Washington monument. No elevator!


11



Never do two illegal things at the same time. Don’t break the law while breaking the law.


16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21



If you want to know what girls like, read the books they’re reading, watch the shows they watch, etc. Porn is entertainment *not* education. Movies books and shows marketed to 12 year-old boys get it wrong most of the time, can’t learn anything from them. Chick flicks is where you’ll find a little instruction on how to flirt in a non-creepy way, how to kiss, how to be in a healthy relationship. Study the difference between the male gaze vs female gaze.


14



Paying extra for organic isn’t always worth it but I ALWAYS buy organic apples. They taste better and don’t have the pesticides, etc.


18



Before a play date or sleepover ask the parent “Are there any unlocked guns in the house?”


6-9



Book recommendation: “Star Fish” by Lisa Fipps.


11



Check out teen life coach Coaching with Will.


13



I hope you find a partner with who are your most authentic self, and who you love for who they genuinely are.


15, 21



Practice being okay with someone misunderstanding you. Not everyone is going to “get” you. That’s okay.


14, 19, 21



Watch Ken Burns’ “The US and the holocaust.”


17



Challenge yourself to excel at something. You’ll be astonished how good you can get by practicing consistently. There’s nothing magical about high school quarterbacks or drummers. Girls like boys who have something going on.


13, 14, 17



Time management skills. Look for current resources. Teach about making lists when you're feeling overwhelmed. Start with listing 5 to-do's. Tackle the top 3 of those. Then reassess. New priorities? If no, keep going down the list. If yes, add them to the list in whatever order of importance.


12



Look for glimmers. The opposite of triggers. Feels of elation, belonging, peaceful contentment. I just watched you glimmer as you delighted in your first Crunchbox. “I made this!!!”


12, 15, 19, 21



Hike Jones Run Falls at Shenandoah National Park.


11



Your brain seeks novelty. Try new things as long as you live. Take risks (but not safety risks!)


20



Make “good trouble” as Rep. John Lewis said. Justice is won, not given.


14, 19