“Vulnerability is not about winning or losing, it’s about showing up and being seen.” -Brene Brown Be vulnerable, that’s where the good stuff lies.


18



Work the problem backwards. Start with the solution (desired outcome) and count down from there each step. Some steps will be small, some big. But you’ll get there!


13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18



If you don’t know where to begin, picture where you want it to end, and work it backwards.


15, 21



Birds of a feather flock together


14



Win some, learn some.


14, 17, 21



Practice making yourself do something you don’t feel like doing. Practice and it gets easier


10, 12, 15, 18, 21



Robin Williams was one of the best examples of how to be a good human.


15, 19, 21



Just for the record, I didn’t vote for Trump. I want my great-grandchildren to know that.


18



1

You can’t ask someone to change who they are before you live or accept them.


12, 15, 21



ABC's of video game addiction: Autonomy, Belonging, Control. Try to find ways to developing these things in areas outside of gaming. Games are great, but not at the expense of everything else.


1Infant-13



1

Turn off main water line when you leave on vacation.


21



Check your ego. Often.


17, 21



Learn to tie knots.


10



“I need help. But I don’t know what I need help with. Could you ask me a few questions and help me figure it out?” Keep this one in your back pocket.


5, 7, 11, 13, 16, 19, 21



Other peoples’ expectations are the guard rails on the road. They keep you safe and guide you he way - literally. They keep you from driving off a cliff. So if you want to be safe, and if you do that’s great, stay within the guardrails. But if you want to fly, you’re gonna have to run right over them.


18, 21



No matter how late you are, don’t speed or drive unsafely. It’s not worth someone’s life or limbs.


18-18, 21



When COVID started my first thought was “Holy sh*t Trump is going to cancel the 2020 election because of pandemic.” Thank God I was wrong.


15



Surround yourself with people and ideas that inspire you and captivate you. Life is too short for destructive relationships.


13, 18



Turn on the closed captions on tv. Reading them is almost unconscious. Even better, set the audio to a language other than English and turn on English captions.


4-9



Make “good trouble” as Rep. John Lewis said. Justice is won, not given.


14, 19



Read or listen to The Mountain is You by Brianna Wiest.


17, 21



Some people think the world owes THEM. They have a backwards. We are servants. How can we best serve?


12-21



Pedestrians get hit all the time. Be aware when you’re driving OR walking. Wear reflective gear if walking at night. Stay off your phone when driving OR walking.


15



Always know where the main water shut-off is in your house.


18



This Coda is my creation. It’s what I wanted to accomplish as a parent. What you do with it is entirely up to you. I hope you never feel like you have to do the same. Make your own way. Make yourself proud. If you’re happy, I’m happy.


21



It’s hard to want something and not have it. Kids have to learn how to sit with that.


3-17



Guard your health and fitness as if it were your most valuable possession. (It is.)


14, 17, 21



On days when you wake up tired, sick or just not ready to deal with the morning, just get up and take a shower. Turn up the music. Rally!


17-21



Partnership or pride…pick one.


21