Get at least 2, preferably 3 estimates on any major expenses for home or car.


21



Be generous in all things. That is my hope for you.


14, 18, 21



Teach tuck to drive


15



Put together a PowerPoint project outlining addiction: substance, gambling, shopping, hoarding, eating, etc. Have them so the research and put it together. Discuss. Reward its completion with a fun activity or trip.


15



Some things just don’t come easy. That’s the point. Practice working for what you want. Nothing is sweeter than when you accomplish something you set out to do. Go for it!


11, 14, 17, 21



Zero-cost method to reaching your goals (academic, career, fitness and health): Get up an hour earlier. You’ll be amazed how much you can get done and how “on top of it” you feel.


16, 18, 21



The opposite of depression is expression.


15



Give people the benefit of the doubt. Unless someone gives you a reason not to trust them, assign the best possible motive to their actions.


14-18



“Be brave. Be resilient. Be kind. Be grateful.” -Hillary Rodham Clinton


12



Read Admiral William McRaven’s autobiography Sea Stories.


17



Never trust your tongue when your heart is bitter. Hush until you heal.


12, 18



One of my favorite things is the smell of celery and onion being sautéed in butter. It’s the smell I woke up to on so many Thanksgiving mornings as my mom was making the stuffing.


21



Resource: the website Ask, Listen and Learn has great material about how to start a conversation about the dangers of under-age drinking. asklistenlearn.org


9



“For better or worse means no matter what life throws at us, not no matter what you do to me.” - Brenda Linn


19, 21



Make a deal: flying lessons IF he takes dancing lessons. A man has got to know how to dance! In fact, tack on some other prerequisites like good grades and responsible behavior


16



Painful or unpleasant emotions can’t grow if you stay in the present. (Easy way to do this is to focus on your breathing.)


10, 13, 16, 21



Let’s talk about how we can bless people - with what we have and by how we act.


7



Read "A Wrinkle in Time" (me too.)


10



Stuff will happen and you’ll think “I can’t get through this. I can’t go on.” In the moment it really feels that way. But ...You will survive. You’ll find a way. Never give up on yourself. I never will.


17



1

Just love them. With all your might, them for who they are, and where they are. Forget about the other stuff.


15



You’ll be finished with school soon. The most important thing I hope you learned is that there is still so much yet to learn.


21



Writing is re-writing


15, 18



Purpose is more important than happiness. Having a purpose (or looking for it) will save you. (And sometimes finding a *new* purpose is what you need.)


16, 21



It’s not fair to resent someone for being who they are. We can all improve ourselves, learn and grow etc. but we should never ask anyone to change who they are in exchange for our love. And that goes both ways - never change who you are to fit someone else’s idea of who you should be. Be open to ways to can improve yourself of course, but surround yourself with people who love you for you and encourage you to be your genuine self and who want the best for you.


12, 15, 18, 21



Read “Lighter” by Yung Pueblo. Read it every year.


17, 19, 21



Adjust your expectations but never lower your standards.


12, 15, 18, 21



“I don’t know what I think until I write about it.” - Joan Didion


15



Teen years are a whole other ballgame. Find a community and stay up with trends and news. Check out the website Raising Teens Today.


12



My Nana, born around 1913, used to decry “some people think the world owes them a living.” A hundred years later I agree. Nothing worse than entitlement.


13, 15, 21