Men worry about getting laughed at or rejected by a woman. Women worry about getting killed when they reject a man. Let that sink in.


15, 21



Maria Shriver has lots of great parenting advice. One of my favorites is (paraphrased): “Children need what you need: to be seen, to be talked to, to feel safe and loved.”


Infant



Two big things. Control yourself, not others. Learn to react less.


12, 16, 19, 21



Talk about how to speak up for themselves and others.


1Infant-12, 16, 21



People learn all sorts of different ways. I found I learn best by repetition (drills) especially true for skills. And by listening for studying. Recording my lectures in college made a huge difference in my ability to learn and retain material. Let’s find what works for you.


14, 17



Be generous in all things. That is my hope for you.


14, 18, 21



Monty Python movies.


12-15



We can learn, we can evolve. Let yourself be moved by the spirit. More beauty, more service, more humanity, deeper (or questioned) faith, more love. Always more love. That’s the best I can hope for: that you live a life full of love.


21



Read up on the adolescent brain.


11, 13



Start a tradition of setting goals for Ne Year. Keep a notebook in with the Christmas ornaments and each year we all add in whatever we want to focus on: such as our resolutions, goals, hope or plans, etc. That will be something fun to do at the end of the year when we’re taking down the tree and putting away all the holiday stuff.


8



Never follow an “I love you” with a “but...” Instead, follow it with “and...” or “that’s why...” Remember this when they’re young, teach it to them when they’re older.


10, 20



Never give unsolicited advice. Instead ask “How can I best support you?”


14, 20



Parent the way you want your children to behave. Compassion, patience. Loving.


1, 2, 3, 4



It’s hard to want something and not have it. Kids have to learn how to sit with that.


3-17



You can get into big trouble (with school and the law) even by fake / joke threats of violence (bomb threat, etc.) No jokes or pranks that have anything to do with violence.


11



Enroll in a CPR course. Re-certify every year.


13



Test


1-2



1

My best parenting advice


1, 2, 3, 6, 8, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17



Marriage vows won’t “fix” anything about a relationship. They won’t change how a person communicates. Never start out a relationship with the hope or expectation that your partner will change (or if they are hoping you will change.)It’s not fair to either of you. Everyone deserves to be loved for who they are, not who they could be.


21



Time is of the essence


16



To quote Harvard professor Adam Grant: “Argue like you’re right and listen like you’re wrong.”


15



Ask”How can I be a better parent to you?” Listen.


1Infant-18



Create tech-free zones and times.


10, 11, 12, 13, 19, 21



Use Shutterfly or something like it to make Christmas books and birthday books each year.


Infant-21



If you can afford to send flowers when a baby is born or when someone dies, do so.


21



Read or listen to The Mountain is You by Brianna Wiest.


17, 21



Dress to people will listen to you, not look at you. (This is especially true at school and work.)


15, 18, 21



1

Put a few drops of tea tree oil in their shampoo bottle to keep lice at bay. If there’s a outbreak at school, add more. (Or spritz their hair with a tea tree oil solution.)


5-7



Play up your strengths. What are your strengths? What are you really good at or love doing?


13, 17, 21