Teach tuck to drive


15



Grandpa never wore a watch. (This was way before cell phones existed.) Still, he always knew what time it was, and he was never, ever late.


14



You may lose a relationship but you keep the love. It becomes a part of you. It changes you for the better.


15, 19, 21



If it’s the right thing, if something needs to be done… Make yourself do it. You’re never going to “feel like it.” Practice daily with things big and / or small without complaining.


9, 12, 15, 21



Don’t confuse a broken dream for a broken future. Or a broken heart for a broken life.


13, 15, 17, 19, 21



Read Admiral William McRaven’s autobiography Sea Stories.


17



Everyone gets crushes but if you’re having an imaginary relationship do so with an imaginary person. It’s disrespectful of someone’s dignity to obsess over them. Not to mention your own dignity!


12, 13, 15, 16, 19, 21



"Discipline is helping a child solve a problem. Punishment is making a child suffer for having a problem. To raise problem solvers, focus on solutions, not retribution.”- L.R KNost


2-15



You were THREE years old when you caught sight of a half-dressed beautiful woman. You didn’t have much of a vocabulary yet but when your eyes got wide and you said “BAM BAM” I knew exactly what you meant. (Woman was Jessica Biel in an Adam Sandler movie.)


14, 21



Anything you wear on purpose is fashion.


14, 19, 21



Listen to books of love letters. I forget the title but one of the Bush twins wrote a book about her grandparents (George and Barbara). Stories about real love, real life. Fiction is great too but having a real world examples of happy partnerships is gold.


18



Let’s find an activity where you can work with your hands


11



Frustrated with school or work? It bothers you because you care or you hurt. That’s human.


14



Instead of focusing on finding love, focus on DOING what you love. When you're thriving and in your element Love will find YOU. Besides, love isn't just about finding the right person it's about being the right person.


17-19



Read The Invisible Boy by Trudy Ludwig.


4



If you don’t have anything intelligent to say on a subject it’s fine (encouraged) to say nothing. Listen. Learn.


20



A person is only as good as how they treat you when they are angry with you.


17



Read “Spare” by Prince Harry.


20



Go to Montgomery County Fair


5-14



An exercise in assumption. Have them answer “Just because I _______” doesn’t mean _________”.


10



I did my best to guide you, but I’m sure there are many areas where my take is just not aligned with yours. That’s okay! Bunny please don’t feel any obligation to believe what I believe or take any advice, or continue any tradition mentioned in this Coda.


21



A wise friend once told me that the kids will do as well as you do. You can’t be a good parent if you’re a miserable person. Do what you need to do to stay healthy and sane.


1, 5, 15, 21



If you don’t know where to begin, picture where you want it to end, and work it backwards.


15, 21



Ask them to name 2 current or historical figures that they admire and why (one man one woman).


6-18



Success = liking who you are, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.


14, 17, 21



Train for a mini-triathlon together as a family this year.


12



“Never be sorry for not knowing


17, 21