Read J.R.R. Tolkien's The Hobbit together


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Read blog post from Parent's Corner: The Letter Your Teenager Can't Write You By Gretchen Schmelzer June 23, 2015


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ADHD hack for studying or projects- Leave yourself notes about where you left off.


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Introduction to 70’s Southern Rock. Skynyrd, Allman Bros, etc.


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If they’re not doing anything dangerous, illegal or immoral, let them be. Give them space and independence. (Just first define dangerous/ illegal/ immoral. Then remind them that you are here and would love to hear about anything they want to share.)


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Sometimes it’s easier to describe what a thing is *not* than to describe what it is.


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Best take on parenting: “My kid is never gonna not feel safe with me.”


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Sleep paralysis runs in the family. If you ever feel like you’re awake but you can’t move - don’t panic. It will pass in a minute. It’s just a lag time in your sleep/wake cycle.


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Let's find little ways to practice self-control and build that muscle.


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A man is not a financial plan.


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Your life is way bigger than one relationship. Or one grade, or one job, or one choice, or one event, or one gift. Make room for all of it even when some of it will most certainly hurt.


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Just love them. With all your might, them for who they are, and where they are. Forget about the other stuff.


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Always stand up to shake someone’s hand. (NEVER shake a person’s hand while sitting.) Always get up out of your seat to greet a guest and walk them to the door when they leave.


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“Your goals will kick you in the shins and steal your lunch money.” -Jon Acuff. You have to fight back, even though some days you lose. Failure is part of the process. Keep going.


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Plan a trip to Disney this year.


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“When you are not fed love off a silver spoon you will learn to lick it off of knives.” Lauren Eden (poet)


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Give him a copy of The Secret Lives of Great Composers by Elizabeth Lunday.


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Special occasion gift idea: put a video together of a ton of friends and family wishing them the best. Maybe it’s graduation, or wedding or big move, or for when she’s in labor, etc. Ask friends and family to film a short video of encouragement/congratulations/support/advice/etc.


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Sometimes our bodies can betray us. Something goes wrong and healthy cells are replaced with broken cells: Cancer, diabetes, heart disease, auto-immune diseases, etc. Mental health can become diseased too: Depression, anxiety, compulsive behavior, suicidal thoughts. The very good news is that good medical care is available for all of these things. That, along with the love and support of family and friends helps our bodies to heal. Physical illness is obvious. Sometimes people keep their mental pain a secret. Please promise me you’ll never keep any pain you’re going through a secret.


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To my boys: Personally I believe the boy / man should pay when out on a date. Always be prepared to pay - but sometimes a girl / woman wants to pay or split the check. Don’t push back on that. Make sure she knows it would be your pleasure to pay because you want to show her a good time and spoil her, but that you understand that paying a check doesn’t put her in your debt. Instead, your motto should be “If you’re comfortable, I’m comfortable.” And that goes for a lot of categories including sex/ physical contact. And to my girls: Always be prepared to pay, offer to pay often. It’s a sad fact that some men feel they’re owed something if they spring for dinner. On a date you are never obligated to do or say anything you don’t want to. Never.


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You are never too old to play in the snow.


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You have to learn how to not start, and how to stop abruptly when you’re turned on. Doesn’t matter how much you want it, nothing happens unless she gives enthusiastic consent, and nothing continues if she were to withdraw consent for any reason or at any time. Look up the making tea analogy for consent. It’s perfect.


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Don’t ask for anything until you’ve done what has been asked of you.


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If you’re easily offended you are easily manipulated. So take a breath and turn off your ego.


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Monty Python movies.


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“It’s alright to be yourself. There ARE people in this world who will love you.” -Fred Rogers


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Soap and water go a long way towards fixing many problems.


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Go to movie Star Wars


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You don’t have to have everything you want. Practice saying “no thank you” to dessert or passing on the purchase you’re considering. Benefits are plentiful: Build self-discipline (which is like a muscle) and you learn you’re really ok and often happier when you don’t indulge a “want.”


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Look into going to college abroad. Research international universities. Spain, Netherlands, etc.


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