Make yourself a good hand. Don't wait to be asked, just jump in when you see a need. Wash a dish, make a bed, change a tire, help out a friend or a stranger whenever you can.


14-20



Practice sitting still and quiet. Make it a game. Helps with focus and impulsivity.


4-7



It’s your civic duty to vote (including midterms!) Be an informed voter.


16, 18



Tell them who they are: kind, creative, smart etc. A person of honor and integrity, a part of the divine universe. Demonstrate for them what it means to live according to your values. Encourage them to listen to their body, guide them on how they might best find (and align with) their truest nature. Listen to them when they’re exploring what that might look like. Support them when they decide.


1, 2, 5, 7, 12, 16, 18, 21



Talk about what’s normal and what’s abnormal reactions to alcohol and drugs. Basically all kinds of feels from euphoria to paranoia to jealousy or infatuation, etc. Getting sick is normal but blacking out is not. *Anything that could interfere with breath or circulation is dangerous.


13, 15, 17



Put him in charge of figuring the tip out when we’re out at a restaurant. Calculate 15% or 20% etc. Also emphasize that the difference between a good tip and a great tip is usually just a few dollars but it makes a difference to the recipient. Be generous with people who are in service professions.


12-14



You will never have to hustle for your self-worth. You are worthy of love and respect simply because you exist. Same goes for every other human.


16



If you want to know what a woman wants in a man, I have a simple answer for you: watch the movie Scent of a Woman starring Al Pacino. Specifically, the tango scene.


14, 17, 21



Make sure you always have Uber gift cards on hand for friends, emergencies or whatever.


15-18



“You will use up everything you got trying to give people what they want.” —- Nina Simone


17



Talk about de-escalation techniques.


15



Look into Space Camp for next year


8



Camp Arena Stage


8



That trope “everything happens for a reason” is, I think, b.s. But I absolutely agree that you can find meaning in anything good or bad.


17



Don’t confuse impulsive with courageous.


10, 14, 19, 21



It's natural to avoid change. Try to learn to accept change, embrace it if you can! Change is good. :)


15



Find what you love Do what you love Be what you love Live what you love Love what you love and never look back ... Except to love.


19



Read "A Wrinkle in Time" (me too.)


10



Get talking. Trade off likes, fears, hopes, dreams, pet peeves, etc. I like... I get mad when... I dream about... It makes me sad when I see... I’m afraid of... I wonder about...


4, 8, 14



Philippians 4: 11-13


12



You’ll miss me when I’m gone, but if I did my job right you won’t need me.


21



“All the best things in life live on the other side of fear.” - Will Smith’s grandmother.


20



Talk to them about how dangerous it is to buy pills online. Fentanyl is ubiquitous and lethal in small doses. Never never take a pull that wasn’t prescribed or purchased legally.


12



Golf lessons. Grampa loved golf, if he were here he would have taught you himself.


9



Sometimes grief looks a lot like anger. Are you upset about something you lost or had to let go of?


15, 21



Write your own job description. When you've been around long enough to know what you're good at and can identify what needs in the company you can help with.


21



“Pain that is not transformed is transmitted.” Fr. Richard Rohr


14



You always have a choice. Always.


15, 19, 21



Make a Shutterfly book for each year and give it to them on their birthday.


5-18



In the wise words of Taylor Swift, you don’t have to forgive or forget in order to move on. You can just…move on.


15, 21