Watch YouTube video on how to administer an Epi-pen injection. You have friends with allergies you may need to know how to do this.


11-15



To avoid miscommunication and misplaced expectations, tell your partner what you need from them. But if what you need is for them to be a different person, that’s not fair to them or to you. Let them go and set about finding the right person.


18, 20



Let's talk about what armor you choose. People use all kinds of props and attitudes to try to protect or soothe themselves. Often it's that armor that ends up being much worse than the scary problems they were trying to avoid in the first place. Developing a healthy set of armor is crucial. Let's talk about some healthy ways to make ourselves feel better. Reference Brene Brown wholeheartedness.


12-16



It’s okay to not understand things. Just be sure the only place your ignorance leads you is to education.


15, 19



Practice being embarrassed. Tell embarrassing stories. Help them learn how to deal with the sensation.


9



Begin again. Whether by choice or necessity, sometimes there’s no other option.


15, 21



Practice sitting still and quiet. Make it a game. Helps with focus and impulsivity.


4-7



“The flower does not dream of the bee. It blossoms


15



Respect people’s boundaries / quirks. Someone who “doesn’t fly” may have fear of enclosed spaces due to anxiety or past trauma. Someone who doesn’t drink may have had a parent who was an abusive alcoholic. Don’t laugh, question or prod. If they want to talk about it, fine. Otherwise just accept their boundaries.


15, 21



Book: “victory. Stand!” By Tommie Smith


14



Plan trip to Outside Lands music festival at Golden Gate Park


17



It’s fine, great, to be thrifty. But please don’t be cheap. Hard-earned money should neither be squandered or hoarded. Enjoy your success! But save more than you’re comfortable with. It’s like my running coach used to say: Keep going until you feel like you’re gonna poop your pants, then push yourself to do another mile. Point is, it should hurt a little.


16, 21



Some people think the world owes THEM. They have a backwards. We are servants. How can we best serve?


12-21



People will always have complicated feelings about the people they once loved. We’re human beings, we can’t expect emotions to be like an on/off switch. Complicated feelings/mixed emotions regarding an ex is to be expected. What’s important is what they decide.


17, 21



Bring Christmas cookies to local fire station and police station. (Annually)


7-14



Teach them what to do if they hit an animal while driving on the road. (First find out what you’re supposed to do, THEN teach them.)


16



Today is not the day to lose your sh*t. Deep breaths, cold water, do your hair. You’re gonna be just fine.


1-21



Your brain seeks novelty. Try new things as long as you live. Take risks (but not safety risks!)


20



Wintergreen snow sledding trip.


6



Focus on the lesson not the pain.


14, 21



Put down your phone and be in the moment. Teach this. Model this.


7



Ask “What are you going to teach ME?” Let him work on something to teach.


11



Monty Python movies.


12-15



Go as a family to local high school musical productions.


7-18



Fact: when you drink to excess you are significantly more likely to cause harm to someone or be harmed yourself. Being drunk means surrendering your ability to keep yourself and others safe.


12, 15, 18



“Be brave. Be resilient. Be kind. Be grateful.” -Hillary Rodham Clinton


12



Give them the book Starfish by Lisa Fipps.


12, 14



Grandpa used to describe injuries and medical procedures as “It’s a nothin.” I think of this every time I have to endure something painful.


14, 18



You’re gonna want to quit, many times. Whether it’s a job, a marriage, a degree, a cause… whatever. I have no way of knowing whether or not you should quit, just know that feeling like you want to quit is normal when you hit a setback or disappointment, or rejection or betrayal. It doesn’t necessarily mean you’re going to feel that way forever. Sometimes it’s best to cut your losses, sometimes it’s better to stick it out. Treat yourself with patience and compassion while you consider what’s best.


14, 17, 21



Someone I admire is __________. Talk about someone you admire and why. Ask them to do the same. Do this often as you can. Reticket through age 18.


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