“Courage is cheaper than Channel. It works better too.” - Scott Galloway


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Work the problem backwards. Start with the solution (desired outcome) and count down from there each step. Some steps will be small, some big. But you’ll get there!


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Educate yourself. You can't solve a problem if you don't understand it.


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If you can’t afford to tip the server, you can’t afford to be there.


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Look up crowd cow for meat delivery.


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Make sure they have resources other than us. Hotlines for teens such as Boys Town National Hotline, National $@!#% Prevention Lifeline, etc.


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Anyone who asks you to violate your values doesn’t deserve your allegiance.


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Your intuition speaks in statements


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Just let a sweet moment be. There’s a time for jokes or small talk, but sometimes silence is best.


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Buy life insurance when you're young.


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None of us sit high enough to look down on anybody.


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When you’re older, remember that stuff like video games, alcohol, junk food, gambling, porn, and a whole host of other vices can turn on you, and become an addiction that wrecks your health, relationships or even your life. You don’t have to give up all this stuff, but keep them to a minimum. How often and how much is a big difference. It’s the difference between meeting a friend for a beer or two and walking into work hungover most days. Remember: You decide- How often and how much.


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“You can miss a person every day and still be glad that they’re no longer in your life.” — Oprah Winfrey


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It’s very easy to wander into trouble- not usually easy to wander out of it.


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“Natural” deodorant doesn’t work. Go with trusted brands here. There are times when it’s fine not to look your best, but stinky is never okay.


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At the hospital? Always confirm your name and date of birth and why you’re there.


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Ask them “what would it take for you to_____?” (Keep your room clean, stay on top of your homework, feel like you had more control in this situation, etc.) Instead of nagging or lecturing, just ask.


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Beware of people that try and rial you up. Who benefits from what they’re saying? Are they trying to sell you something? Are they trying to scare you or appealing to other base emotions or prejudice? Are they qualified on the subject, or do they just have an opinion? Plenty of good, smart people get radicalized


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Devotion is revealed by behavior, not intention.


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When it comes to judging your behavior at school/ sports/ work, ask: Was I fair? Was I kind? Did I put in the work? If the answers are all “Yes,” then rest well. If an answer is “No,” then fix it.


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Rain, snow or sleet...Always return the shopping cart to the proper spot in the parking lot.


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Octavia Butler’s “Parable of the Sower.”


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I’ve been trying to retrain my brain to deal with anxiety in healthy ways. It’s SO hard when these connections were fused decades ago. BUT I REFUSE to be a party to YOU laying down those same unhealthy neurological pathways. I’ll teach you better ways to handle stress and anxiety. Exercise/ Music/ warm showers/ creativity/ rest/ journaling/ meditation... WHATEVER! I promise to Somehow teach you what I never learned.


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Grandpa was a Marine, though you’d never know it. Slight in build and oh-so gentle natured. But underneath he had a good bit of grit. He never complained. He once told me “You can stand any amount of pain for a little while.” (Basically saying suck it up and hang in there until help arrives.) I’ve never forgotten it.


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No threats, not even jokingly.


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Look for glimmers. The opposite of triggers. Feels of elation, belonging, peaceful contentment. I just watched you glimmer as you delighted in your first Crunchbox. “I made this!!!”


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If you witness a moment of vulnerability in someone, keep it to yourself. Be respectful of people's dignity.


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Always have a 5 year plan. Be thinking of goals you want to work towards, however big or small. What inspires you? What drives you? What do you want to accomplish or cure or solve?


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Book: “victory. Stand!” By Tommie Smith


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