Meditation isn’t about a quiet mind, it’s about training a distracted mind to remain in the present. Focus on your breathing for one minute (set a timer.) Every time your thoughts wonder, gently bring your focus back to your breath. You may have to do this 10, 20, 30 or more times during those 60 seconds…but eventually you’ll get better. When you do, increase to two minutes, then five, all the way up to 30 minutes or even an hour.


16



Anything you deny or fight will fight you back harder. Don’t fight the fear, pain, disappointment, etc. Let it in and let it teach you what it wants to teach you. Then you can part as friends.


15, 21



Be the kind of man that people feel safe around. Safe from harm, safe from judgment and safe from ridicule.


17



Make sure you always have Uber gift cards on hand for friends, emergencies or whatever.


15-18



Do the work. No short-cuts.


14



Read up about the National Parks. Pick one to plan a trip to.


9



Have them sort change, and eventually to count it. It teaches them to gather things that are alike, it's an introduction to money and it occupies them for 15 minutes! Just make sure they're old enough to be past the point of putting coins in their mouth.


3-5



Paint rocks with pictures or kind messages and find public places to leave them where they can hide in plain site. See RockOurWorldArt.


8-11



Read Admiral William McRaven’s autobiography Sea Stories.


17



“It’s best if we don’t speak for a while.” Practice it


19, 21



Universal Studios


12-18



Come and go in peace.


12, 15, 21



"The idea that some lives matter less is the root of all that is wrong with the world." - Paul Farmer


15, 21



A simple trick to calm your nerves: Name 5 things you can hear right now.


5-15



Read maps.


9-14



Trying to avoid the real work makes the task 100 times harder. Do the work.


9, 15, 21



Write your own job description. When you've been around long enough to know what you're good at and can identify what needs in the company you can help with.


21



Dress to people will listen to you, not look at you. (This is especially true at school and work.)


15, 18, 21



1

If you’re easily offended you are easily manipulated. So take a breath and turn off your ego.


14, 19, 21



Writing is re-writing


15, 18



Are they (we) getting enough quiet?


8, 12-14



There is all kinds of darkness in the world- disease, accidents, natural disasters, etc. But the worst darknesses are man made: War, violence, poverty, injustice, indifference. Push back against all of it as much as you can. Light will beat the darkness in the end. Fight on the side of the light. Love, truth, beauty, creativity, connection and compassion.


20



“The flower does not dream of the bee. It blossoms


15



Don’t waste your life’s purpose worrying about what other people think about you.


12, 15, 21



Sometimes grief looks a lot like anger. Are you upset about something you lost or had to let go of?


15, 21



I’m going to keep from telling them how to feel.


4-18



Highly encourage typing/ keyboarding class.


14



Have dinner guests sign the under side of the dining room table. Let the kids’ friends sign too - or have their own version of a guestbook - the inside of a cabinet or the basement door, etc.


5, 12-14



There is nothing “basic” about basic human dignity. Never treat a person as though they are put on this earth for your amusement. Everyone deserves to be treated with dignity because we’re all human beings. No matter their age, looks, status, even past wrongdoing, everyone deserves to be treated with dignity.


14



Don’t worry if they’re not listening to what you say...They watch what you do. They study it.


13