Your spouse will be absolutely unbearable roughly 10% of the time. So will you be, by the way. Give grace. Receive it too. Also, physical distance helps, even for a few hours.


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Become habitual about doing that which makes you feel good and yourself and fulfilled. If it’s running, make running a habit and dedicate time for it.


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If you ever borrow someone’s car, return it with a full tank of gas.


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People don’t abandon people they love, they abandon people they’re using.


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Rock those babies to sleep as often as you can.


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Sex is not an act, it’s a pool. Stay in the shallow end for as long as possible. Have fun. Be safe. Be respectful.


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When something is upsetting you...Name it...Take a deep breath...Imagine holding it gently in your hands. (This is a reminder to use this visualization myself and to teach it to you. I want to give you as many tools as I can to help you learn to cope with negative emotions in a healthy way.)


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If car breaks down, if at all possible, avoid pulling over on the highway. Get off the highway and pull to safety.


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Listen to albums. Two of my favorites came out the very same month: Cowboy Carter by Beyoncé and The Tortured Poets Department by Taylor Swift.


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Keep screen time to a minimum.


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Isometrics for “punishment” (wall sits, arm lifts, planks, etc.)


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When they turn 18 they should have a will, a financial power of attorney and a medical PoA.


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Play this every year between 12-21. https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPd2b593U/


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Be mindful of privilege. Discuss the concept, point it out where you see it.


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1

Start explaining wants vs. needs. Continue explaining for the next 30 years. We don’t always get what we want. That’s okay. 4 year olds can begin to understand this.


4



Today is not the day to lose your sh*t. Deep breaths, cold water, do your hair. You’re gonna be just fine.


1-21



The most attractive man in the world is one who brings peace.


21



“1883” Season 1 episode 6 has one of my favorite scenes about grief. “When you love someone you trade souls with them. Part of them lives in you and part of you lives with them. When they die, part of you dies with them. But a part of them lives in you.” Beautiful thought.


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My favorite version of myself is when I’m not worried about what others think of me. I


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Motivation: Just start. Two minutes. You don’t need to feel good to get going, you need to get going to give yourself a chance to feel good.


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Read A Mother’s Reckoning by Sue Klebold (mother of Columbine shooter.)


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Look into a class for meditation for kids. I read an article on a Baltimore elementary school that replaced detention with meditation and had amazing success.


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make your own latch board / "busy board" for plenty of hours of learning and entertainment. Find lots of great ideas on Pinterest.


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Grit.


14



Turn off main water line when you leave on vacation.


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Sometimes it’s easier to describe what a thing is *not* than to describe what it is.


14, 21



Win some, learn some.


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Before heading out for a good time, make a mental note on the ways you could wreck or end your life if bad stuff happened: Sick/hurt/dead from alcohol or drugs, unintended pregnancy, or being raped (or being charged with rape.) What do u have to do to protect yourself and keep things from going from good times to life-changing nightmare. Keep your wits about ya. And look out for your friends too.


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Watch Abby Wambach's 2018 Barnard commencement address together.


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