Overflowing toilet 101: Teach how to turn off the water valve and how to plunge. From now on, you break it, you fix it.


11



Great article on how to explain that bodies AND brains are undergoing rapid changes during adolescence. Re-read and then chat! https://www.upworthy.com/amp/this-mother-s-description-of-her-tween-son-s-brain-is-a-must-read-for-all-parents?c=ufb1


10



Remember that your tend to act like/ think like the people you hang around most. Choose your friends (and your spouse) wisely.


10, 14, 21



Don’t waste big money on little things. Be intentional about what you spend.


16, 21



Discuss difference between foods that taste good vs. foods that make you FEEL good.


12-14



Trust me when I tell you that one day you’ll look back and realize you judged people unfairly and you held strong to convictions only to end up changing your mind about in the light of life experience. Leave a little space open for second impressions or the possibility that you could be wrong.


17



Staying calm is 90% of the battle. Practice.


13, 15, 18, 21



Be thankful for opportunities to be of service. It means God is trusting you to help.


8-14



Cut people some slack, everyone is entitled to a bad day.


17-20



Consensual sex requires no persuasion, convincing or begging.


14, 17



Numbing doesn’t work. Let it hurt, let it heal, then it lets itself go.


15,21



Start a yearly “review” right before school year. Raise allowance as appropriate. If they want more money, they’ll have to take on more responsibilities.


8



Take the train to Roanoke.


10



My theory is that it’s pointless to chase love. You’ll never catch it. Focus on DOING what you love. When you’re being who you’re meant to be, you’ll find the one you’re meant to love. That way, love chases YOU! And love always wins. ❤️


16



Any thought about self-harm is like a “check engine” light going off for your brain. Seek professional help. You will recover.


12, 14, 15, 17, 19, 21



Life is like the ocean: Filled with energy, beauty, scary schit, lots of interesting creatures and so much to be in awe of. We couldn’t possibly control it but we can be a part of it.


16



The moment you lose your cool, you’ve lost.


12,13, 14, 15, 16, 21



“Love is giving your heart without expectation.” - Dan Fogelman


16, 21



People always say “Be yourself.” That’s good advice but really what does it mean? I think it’s easier to explain what it DOESN’T mean: When you’re being yourself you’re not pretending to be interested in something or someone you’re not. You’re not doing something just to please someone else (or just to tick them off.) You’re not wearing anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. You’re not pretending to have fun when you’re not having fun. You’re not trying to impress anyone. You’re not trying to fade into the background. You’re not trying to change anything about yourself or someone else. I think that’s a good start. What does “being yourself” mean to you?


11-14, 18, 21



Action is the antidote to anxiety.


12, 14, 17, 21



Emphasize "First things first." Distraction is always a challenge. Redirect focus to first things first.


5



Small joys are what gets you through big grief.


14, 18, 21



Cotillion and other social clubs abound in our area. They usually start around 5th or 6th grade. start looking into what might be a good fit. Lay the ground work that they will attend.


1Infant-12



Sometimes there’s nothing else to do with the pain except to use it to build a new life.


13. 17, 19, 21



Go out of your way to part on good terms whenever possible, in all circumstances.


18



I’ve stopped worrying about you being able to make your way through life. You’re not even 8 years old and I can see you’re going to be just fine. You’re smart, kind, curious, hilarious and so very lovable. I worry about your safety, I stress about your health, but I don’t worry about your character. I’m so proud of you, and I love watching you grow.


14



We’re all just so delicate. It’s just our nature. Treat others (and yourself) accordingly. Even/ especially the ones that seem to be tough as nails or sharp as wire. Try not to lose sight of that.


13, 16, 20



Talk about the difference between not feeling comfortable and not feeling safe.


7, 11, 14, 19. 21



Come and go in peace.


12, 15, 21



Micro-internships. Check out Parker Dewey for ideas.


16, 17, 18