My favorite version of myself is when I’m not worried about what others think of me. I


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Pick a project on Instructables.com and work on it together this winter.


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“Remember Divas and Friends, if you don’t think good things about yourself, how do you expect anybody else to?” - Sheryl Lee Ralph


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Don't let the laundry pile up. This lessons extends to pretty much every chore: Stay ahead of it and you won't get crushed by it.


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Just do the next right thing. One step at a time, you’ll get there.


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The Paradoxical Commandments by Keith Kent: 1. People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centred. Love them anyway. 2. If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives. Do good anyway. 3. If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway. 4. The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. 5. Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway. 6. The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds. Think big anyway. 7. People favour underdogs but follow only top dogs. Fight for a few underdogs anyway. 8. What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway. 9. People really need help but may attack you if you do help them. Help people anyway. 10. Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth. Give the world the best you have anyway.


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Let’s look for examples of bravery.


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Psalm 37:3 “Do good and trust in the Lord.” That pretty much covers it.


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People will always have complicated feelings about the people they once loved. We’re human beings, we can’t expect emotions to be like an on/off switch. Complicated feelings/mixed emotions regarding an ex is to be expected. What’s important is what they decide.


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Practice staying calm under pressure. The pop-up game “Perfection” is a fun way.


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Enrich your mind. Refresh your body. Renew your spirit. - Andrew Weil, MD.


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Just remember sometimes you’re there for a good time but not a long time. Not every relationship (job, journey, experience) is meant to be permanent.)


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Let them borrow your calm. Little ones (grownups too) sometimes just need to freak out a bit. Stay there. Be near. Don’t judge or even help. Just be there, and stay calm. Your loving energy is all they need as they work through it themselves. Keep them safe but other than that don’t help or advise unless they ask.


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Sometimes hookups don’t go well. The vibe is off for whatever reason. Stop. It’s okay to say “actually, let’s just call it a night.” Trust your gut. Be kind but never apologize for saying no-thanks.


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Listen to books of love letters. I forget the title but one of the Bush twins wrote a book about her grandparents (George and Barbara). Stories about real love, real life. Fiction is great too but having a real world examples of happy partnerships is gold.


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People don’t abandon people they love, they abandon people they’re using.


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"Tough times don't last. Tough people do."


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Read Elizabeth Gilbert’s book on creativity. Re-read every few years!


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Read (or listen to) A Fragile Stone together.


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Learn what triggers you. It’s probably just two or three things. Work on your issues


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To paraphrase Chris Rock, “You don’t get points for NOT beating your wife.” Meaning, you’re EXPECTED to do the right thing. So do the right thing, without any expectation of praise.


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Octavia Butler’s “Parable of the Sower.”


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Plan a trip to New York City to see Hamilton.


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“If we could see our prayers we would never stop praying.” - Bunmi Laditan, by way of her angel.


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SAT prep https://www.nytimes.com/2017/04/10/opinion/how-i-learned-to-take-the-sat-like-a-rich-kid.html?referer=http%253A%252F%252Fm.facebook.com%252F


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It’s not fair to resent someone for being exactly who they are.


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When driving in the car with your kids, ask them to count motorcycles, cyclists, pedestrians. Prize to the highest count! This will train them to be on the lookout for them.


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Three things you cannot change: The past, the truth, someone else.


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If your car is overheating turn on the heat full blast. It draws heat off the engine.


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When you’re getting serious in a relationship here’s something to consider- To what extent is your partner is willing to put others’ needs before their own?


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