Three things you cannot change: The past, the truth, someone else.


18



Give book "50 Things Every Young Lady Should Know" by Kay West.


14



Be kinder than necessary.


9, 15, 21



Watch “The Sandlot” together. Great story about friendship and showing up for each other.


8



“You don’t get what you deserve. You get what you negotiate.” - name escapes me


15, 19, 21



Get to know your body, push yourself in terms of strength and endurance. You're stronger than you think. You're growing stronger every day. Your body is amazing and healthy. Take care of it! Enjoy it! Use your amazing strength and energy to do good in the world.


12-16



Teach them about shaken baby syndrome.


13



Highly recommend book about math and multiplication techniques:“The Best of Times” by Greg Tang.


10



Buy life insurance when you're young.


21



The opposite of addiction is connection.


11, 14, 17, 20



“Don’t ever let anyone tell you what you see with your own eyes isn’t happening.” -English teacher Read Diary of Anne Frank together.


12



Practice real-life mental math: Calculate time / age: If someone was born in 1994 how old are they today? Make change in your head: Cost is 14.27, how much change do you have if you give the cashier 20 bucks? Calculate percentages: tips, tax brackets, sales!!


12, 14, 20



Gambling is a very tricky thing. It can get out of hand easily because of how the brain works. That initial “rush” of excitement starts to burn pathways, and causes chemical reactions that need to be fed more and more. Before you know it you’re gambling more often and with more money, trying to achieve that rush. Be very, very careful with gambling. Gambling casinos and online gaming know this and they exploit it to make TONS of money. It’s a scam. Avoid gambling all together or step away very early.


16, 18, 19, 21



Being well-read is better (and cheaper) than an advanced degree, especially for broader education. Stay curious and read!! Fiction, non-fiction, biographies ...


15, 18, 21



Give them marshmallows to suck on when they get a sore throat. Takes away the pain!


3,4,5,6



Let it go. They’re going to make really stupid choices. I drank AND smoked in high school. We all go through it. They need to be able to trust you and rely on you. They’re navigating the world and they need a safe harbor. Be that safe harbor. It’s more important than fighting over stupid behavior. Let them know you don’t approve - sure, but fighting over stupid stuff is just going to make you both bitter.


14, 15, 16, 17



There’s one thing I’ve noticed that makes the difference between an adult and someone who is over 18: That person’s proclivity for reading. Books make you smarter, yes but they also make you kinder, funnier, more empathetic and more tolerant of opposing viewpoints. Travel has a similar effect but is a lot more expensive! If you want to be a genuine grownup, read (or listen to) everything you can get your hands on.


10, 14, 16, 20



“Racism is real, even if you aren’t a racist. White privilege is real, even if you don’t feel it. Police brutality is real, even if the cop you know is kind. Your world isn’t the world. Everything is not about you.” -Mohamed Safa


16, 21



It’s very difficult to pull off sarcasm in written form. It does not translate.


15



Begin colon cancer screening at 40. We have a family history on both sides.


21



Healing happens when you give up the hope that the past could have been any different. xoxo


20



Read the instructions. Don't ask for help if you've been given instructions but haven't yet read them. RTFM. (Read the flippin' manual.)


14-21



Put your purse, (wallet,bag, phone, or shoe) in the backseat with the baby. Unattended babies die every day and it’s my worst nightmare.


Infant-3, 21



Mackinac Island trip


10



Birthday traditions: 1) Plant something every year. 2) Birthday interview on camera or voice recording.


5



Enjoy your success but don’t flaunt it.


21



When they’re upset just ask what they need: space, distraction, or talk about it.


12



Train for a mini-triathlon together as a family this year.


12



Anger is the bodyguard of sadness.


12-15, 21