When setting off fireworks...Keep a hose or a bucket of water nearby. Also remember Costco is a great place to buy them!


5, 7, 9



It is my daily mood that makes the weather. I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration, I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal. ____ In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis is escalated or de-escalated, and a person is humanized or de-humanized. ____ If we treat people as they are, we make them worse. If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming.” — Haim G. Ginott, Teacher and Child: A Book for Parents and Teachers (Re-ticket this every year.)


6



You were THREE years old when you caught sight of a half-dressed beautiful woman. You didn’t have much of a vocabulary yet but when your eyes got wide and you said “BAM BAM” I knew exactly what you meant. (Woman was Jessica Biel in an Adam Sandler movie.)


14, 21



Here’s something I wish wasn’t true but is: Looks matter. This is true for anyone but 100x more so for a woman. Take care of yourself. Stay in good shape, eat well, wear sunscreen, dress well and be well-groomed. It shouldn’t matter but it does. (But try not to judge other people by their appearance- Often times the very best people (friends, spouses, job applicants, etc.) don’t look like movie stars. Far from it!) Yes, looks matter but I hope you value true beauty more.


12, 19



Adjust your expectations but never lower your standards.


12, 15, 18, 21



Look up crowd cow for meat delivery.


10



If it costs you your peace it’s too expensive.


19



Are they (we) getting enough quiet?


8, 12-14



It’s okay to not understand things. Just be sure the only place your ignorance leads you is to education.


15, 19



Before a play date or sleepover ask the parent “Are there any unlocked guns in the house?”


6-9



Staying calm is 90% of the battle. Practice.


13, 15, 18, 21



Some people have more money than sense. Just because u can afford something doesn’t mean you should buy it.


15



Always wear an undershirt with a dress shirt.


15



Sometimes good people aren’t a good match. It’s better for both of you if you’re honest with yourself and with them.


17, 21



Pool safety- never touch equipment and always have a grownup present when swimming.


3-8



Be protective, never be possessive. watch out for your friends’ well-being, their good names, that’s what friends do. But friends don’t try to manipulate someone’s feelings, thoughts or actions.Same goes for romantic relationships.


10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 18, 21



Pretty much everything boils down to looking for love, its many forms. Look in good (creative) places. Avoid looking for love in bad (destructive) places.


15, 17, 19, 21



Always keep a can of WD-40 in the house.


21



Don’t bring a complaint without offering a solution.


17, 19, 21



change the wifi password often. Hold it hostage until chores are done. Work first, play later.


9-14



Plan a trip to Disney this year.


6



Watch Abby Wambach's 2018 Barnard commencement address together.


16



Let’s find an activity where you can work with your hands


11



Find one or two scary documentaries on the dangers of gambling. Watch together. Betting on sports is a big thing in some schools and I want to scare the $@!#% out of him about how bad gambling can screw up his life. Check online tools from gamblers anonymous.


15



Don’t take criticism from people you wouldn’t take advice from.


16



Replace “but” with “and.” “I love you but...” Becomes “I love you and that’s why...” etc.


9



There is all kinds of darkness in the world- disease, accidents, natural disasters, etc. But the worst darknesses are man made: War, violence, poverty, injustice, indifference. Push back against all of it as much as you can. Light will beat the darkness in the end. Fight on the side of the light. Love, truth, beauty, creativity, connection and compassion.


20



Stand up (or sit up) straight in photos. Don’t slouch or lean. (You can touch or be close but don’t lean in.)


12, 14, 21